Multiple Personalities Support Group

Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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Switching in and out

BluAngel2
BluAngel2
Is it bad that we take over this body so easily? I try my hardest to keep to our agreement, but when she is distracted its just sooo easy to come out. I feel like we may be making this hard for her though, but we can't really talk about it because every time I bring it up or my daughter brings it up, she says no its fine.

Any advice that may make this easier on us and the switching? The only reason I am here right now is because she is stressed. Hmmm I just don't know.

Well if you have any advice please don't hesitate to give it.

-- Blu
tyzz27
tyzz27
Hi blu I know its easy to come out when shes stressed and you are trying to protect her but taking advantage of her because you can is not right. Its all well and good to protect her and thats your job and I thank you for doing that. but together all of you need to start teaching her how to start taking care of herself. You need to start teaching her some of the skills you all have that have allowed you to take care of you. Its good that you have a contract but like you said youre not sticking to it. This does make it complicated for her because shes not in charge of her own healing. If you were able to stick to the contract and came out when she allowed well then the rewards for you would be greater because you would feel like you were doing the right thing by her and she would be learning coping strategies to deal with the stress itself. Please please please know Im not criticising you. You have done a wonderful job so far but now its time to work together instead of individually and then you will all become a super power capable of anything.
starfish
starfish
It has helped me to learn that even though every one has different personalities, likes, dislikes, etc....there are "good" things and "bad" things about each one...or you could say, "strong points" and "weak points".....so if you could each discuss the "stong points" you see in each other, and perhaps, the "weak points" you each see in yourselves, you can be more understanding of each other.

PS ~~ this works in the outside world relationships, too!!

((( hugs )))
darkdestiny921
darkdestiny921
I think its great you switch like that, we alters are normally here to help, you just have to think, what stupid thing could your host do, because of too much stress? taking over if only for a minute can relieve some stress and make it easier to think, when our host gets like that we send in the littles, just like cartoons, the comic relief is always therapeutic for our host and anyone around at the time. but when the mind is stronger and you have a hard time coming out is when they need less help. send us a message if you ever want to talk.

Dr. Talon
deleted_user
deleted_user
Blu,

Do you have a time to come out? If you have your time then maybe you won't want to come out during stress. It might be a time when you help her inside and guide her and work with the inner strengths. You can help the core personality and give her inner strength without having to take over. You all could help the core personality and make it mega strong... So cool!!! Have a great day!!! A strong day!!