Hi April, You certainly can be here. Welcome. You sound like a very smart 8-year-old. Was there ever a time when you were younger that you were not afraid and someone did something you didn't like, but you met them with "I'm gonna tell!"? That kind of anger can be really helpful when you go to the therapist. Not to be angry at them, but to get back at the people who wanted you to keep quiet. They can't do anything about who you tell now. You have the power and the right to tell.
One of our littles (Missy) had a hard time telling someone the first time too, but after she did, she felt so good because some of the lies she was told became clear for what they were and had less hold on her. I hope that happens for you too.
Bobbi.

sometimes its the best thing to do to tell secrets,so that you can get some help from someone you trust....it's hard but u can do it...

Hi Emily.

Has your therapist done anything to make you not trust them? Usually therapists are good to help and they listen very well. It sounds like what you need to say is very important. It's also important to remember you're safe now. The people who told you not to tell can't get you anymore.

HI Emily,

I think you are very brave for posting and wanting to tell secrets.. Maybe you can draw a picture to give to your therapist or write a note. That may help you come back or the therapist will at least know you want to talk.

Thanks for talking and you are always welcome!!!

thanks everyone. i couldnt tell her. it was too hard. but she said she new. and when im ready i can talk about it. my friend tammie told her. but i still want to tell her myself.

the right time will come. Sounds like the therapist is a good person.

she is. we know we can trust her. and shes really nice. she keeps saying were safe now. no one can hurt us anymore. and its ok to tell. but its hard to belive. thats not what he used to tell us. he said we could never tell. that bad things would happen. and its hard to no whats the truth.

yep. I think lots of us here can remember the way people got us to keep quiet by saying stuff like that. its all lies though. glad you are on DS
Steph (12)

helo emily, I no how scary it can be to tell someone something when the bad pepil told us not to tell otherwise they would make sure something bad happened to us. What i have done in the past is write what i want to tell ty's dr here or on the little board of ds and then got one of the bigs to print it out for me and take it to the dr. The dr is then good enough to help me feel safe to talk about it. So ples fee free to tell your secret here we wont hurt you.

Cody (9 yrs old)

i told her. she lets us email her stuff if we need to. see i wrote it down. and sent it to her. its not as hard as telling her in real life.