Many reason but the main reason I would assume is fear?Fear of rejection.Fear that no one will love you when in actuality anyone who is trying to control you isn't loving you.

Psh. tell that to bailey, i keep fucking tellin her to stop leting people control her. Didnt fucking get why she does that shit! -Ella

There could be various reasons, and really only Ella knows her own reason. Can you ask bailey why? Did she get you in trouble?

Both replies are right that there are many reasons why we allow ourselves to be controlled. I guess for ourselves we allow ourselves to be controlled so that we can fit in with the crowd and dont feel like the odd one out and sometime being controlled is all we have known in life so its easier to go with what we have known our whole life.

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I was always scared to death as a child to speak up for myself,for fear of what would happen to me..to this day i have a huge problem sticking up for myself and become little when being told what to do or am in a situation when I'm being controlled.It can be a hard thing to change,especially when you dissociate to that child who's so scared.

yes, for some people it is. I'm kind of oppostie though. I used to see only two types of people that I called 'controllers' and 'controllees'. It looked like a misery I did not want to be a 'controllee', so I decided that if the only other choice was to be a controller then that was for me. That was an issue then between my father and I. He was the only one I had to submit to at all, and when he went into rages I had to stand up to him too.
I'm too scared to be little,, it's much too vulnerable for me.

The only way Bailey has had to get love is to be under control, would be my guess. That's what she's used to having to do in order to get any affection at all.

But y'all are completely worth loving just as you are, and you shouldn't have to obey anybody.

It's funny how we project all kinds of reasons onto someone we know nothing about.