No I don't think it's wrong to laugh....
I am surprised that your daughter is not understanding of your situation....why are u feeling sorry...u did the best u could and u are doing...u are not at fault and if there is anything to be ashamed of, I don't think so...
we are creating memories every single day...some we keep close to our heart and some we don't but that doesn't mean we value it less...

I can't believe how much I forget. I have to laugh. I tell people I suffer from CRS. Sunday I forgot to eat after I took my insulin and passed out from low blood sugar. Yesterday I took my morning pills at night. Today I made a bloody scratch on my arm and don't remember any thing about it, forgot to charge my phone and found a goblet that I don't remember where it came from. My grandaughter said it was mine. I'm writing everything down otherwise I would have forgotten by now. It's been this way for as long as I can remember lol. Sometimes I loose a decade here and there.

i think it is healthy to laugh at ourselves, far better than getting angry. maybe your daughter feels embarrassed or is upset that you have an illness, children, even adult children often have the fantasy that parents are perfect.

i wish i could say i laugh, i haven't managed to grow that much yet it still irks me that i make mistakes but i can see the humor in finding ridiculous things like children's books and other 'useless' things around. i used to be amused when the 'laundry fairy' visited, my laundry would be done and i'd have no memory of it but that was the only humor i've ever experienced w/regard to dissociation - unusual for me as i typically have a good sense of humor.

i think you are very fortunate being able to laugh at this - when we can laugh at ourselves we are showing acceptance which is the royal road to healing - borrowing from dr. freud =)

Laughter is the best medicine! :P *strokes moostach* A sense of humor is futile for survival. mmhm mmhm - Sir Chaplin

Wow thanks for sharing everyone. I giggled a little about the laundry thing. I've done that too. i went to do the laundry the other day and found it all finished. I wish I could laugh tonight. I'm stuggling with so much sadness. I feel like I'm always longing for something from my daughter but never get it. I don't know what it is.

I have a difficult time with my daughter; we both love each other entirely, but there has been so much pain in our family, it keeps us at a distance from each other, I think. In a backwards way I think our love and closeness keeps us apart because it hurts.

It sounds to me like your daughter may be mistaking the meaning of why you are laughing. I agree with People, it is better to laugh than to be angry. But also, laughter can be a way to avoid the pain of the truth if you cannot also talk about other things as well.

It's a puzzlement to me; I've been avoiding bringing up the subject because I don't want to make her move away from me even further, but waiting for the right time could never happen. My now oldest son also keeps his distance, but won't talk to me at all. I don't try to talk to him for the same reason, but I always doubt myself if that's the right thing to do.

PS ~~ I used to be very, very angry frequently beyond my ability to control it. Now that I'v learned to laugh more, which ironically, had to come about by facing my pain and working through it, my lack of self control has diminished. And I suppose, the inverse is also true; if humor is your defense mechanisim and you can't control it, then that becomes the reason to face and work through pain. It can also be an expression of pain and anger. (fear) ....I mean all these things generically, I don't mean to imply that I think you're using humor as a way to avoid things. It doesn't sound like it to me.

I find it easier to laugh, but honestly I don't find it funny. It makes my head spin and my heart race and causes me great embarrasment every time a hard piece of evidence of this disorder surfaces. Maybe your daughter is needing to catch her breath too. Be patient. This is hard for our loved-ones as it is for us.

I usually rolled my eyes and shook my head when weird things happened. I don't lose time that much any more so there is more awareness of what is going on. I don't think it would be wrong to laugh. DID is not funny but the experiences i have had from DID can be.

it's true, humor can be a defense but it doesn't sound like you're using it in that way to me. when it's defensive it often is sarcastic, bitter and self-deprecating, yours sounds accepting.

reading these posts reminded me of my relationship with my mother who had an undiagnosed mental illness, if i had to guess i'd say depression and attachment disorder. our relationship was difficult and as i matured i grew more distant which caused her great pain. i could not be the person she wanted me to be, i could not be the person she wanted to have been. and she insisted on doing things that were self destructive in a passive way which angered and hurt me. i think that is not unusual in parent/child relationships where one or both have mental/emotional issues and little or no therapy/healing.

recognizing what is happening as a parent or adult child and seeking ways to heal helps. i was able to find some peace with my mother before she died although we never were as close as we were when i was young. we were never able to have a discussion of what we needed and were offering each other but felt was being cast aside. nor were we able to express how deeply we loved one another.

it's been 13 years since she died and over 15 since i last saw her. i'd like to say i miss her daily but i don't. weeks and sometimes months pass when i don't think about her. then there are times like now when the desire to talk to her is an ache in my soul. not about some life event but simple things, a book i'm reading, or some silly thing the cat did or a patient said or even a discussion here. i miss her presence in the fabric of my life.