Yes it can be quite frustrating when this happens and we have to come up with some prompt excuse to get out of a jam. You say you're not sure whether who was out at the time and i was wondering whether since the occasion occured whether you have had an opportunity to inquire inside. Its a difficult process but until communication starts occuring between ones alters and self i find that this kind of events continue to happen. For me I found the best remedy was to find a book without lines so that the internals could communicate through words or pictures with myself to let me know what was occuring within their lives.

Yes it can be quite frustrating when this happens and we have to come up with some prompt excuse to get out of a jam. You say you're not sure whether who was out at the time and i was wondering whether since the occasion occured whether you have had an opportunity to inquire inside. Its a difficult process but until communication starts occuring between ones alters and self i find that this kind of events continue to happen. For me I found the best remedy was to find a book without lines so that the internals could communicate through words or pictures with myself to let me know what was occuring within their lives.

As far as I know, I haven't done that as obviously as that in front of other people, but enough for some of them to know something's not quite right upstairs. i always wonder, though, if other people see things I'm not aware of, or if I go out at night unaware, which I've had a few experiences that strongly suggest that might be true. That scares me a lot. I have conceeded though, as long as I don't wake up in jail or a hospital, or contract any diseases, I am good with that. I get insecure when I have lived anywhere for any length of time because I always wonder if my neighbors know stuff aboutme that I am unaware of.

I am glad, too, that I am so far able to recover. I've met a few people who at least have some days when thier alters come out and take over unwittingly. One in particular, didn't seem to mind it so much, but I would be mortified. Keeps us safe, but also confined. I don't think even I would be able to cope with what's on the other side of my formidable wall. aAnd perhaps, it's not meant to be breached. I am learning to trust that someone inside, feels like they know that and have so far only allowed me to have enough experiences to see that there is a good reason why my inside world functions that way. So far I have not met or worked with a therapist I feel safe and is competent enough to handle it either, without me falling all apart and losing what functionality and life I have right now.

Remember to take thins slowly and not to open up too soon, and build up your foundation of trust before you go in too deep. That way, can help you avoid a lot of trouble for you, if you get mid-stream and find out your therapist has met their own end of their ability to guide you through because of their own issues, or lack of experience. That is when I have started to become my therapist's therapist, and continuing after that only leads to trouble for me. If you take things slowly, you'll be able to recognize if that's happening befoer any significant problem arises. You'll be the one who suffers the consequences if that does happen. And we've all had enough of suffering consequences of other people's ignorance.