Multiple Personalities Support Group

Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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Queen1996
Queen1996

When my boyfriend goes on vacation or isnt near me, I get upset. Not only becasue one of alternate personalities is out, but because my trauma includes abandonment and loniness. Any ideas on how to cope and not to explode on him for "leaving" me?

k2hsharpe
k2hsharpe
Hi Q
welcome to the group

this is a hard one, isn't it?
I'm afraid I don't have much to suggest.
Abandonment seems to be a trigger for many Multiples, hopefully some of the members here might share some of the strategies they use

Kevin
ashashappire
ashashappire
why don't you plan a fun weekend. get out the comfort zone walk to the mail box anything can lift your spirits start out slow is all I mean. Is the protector that bad maybe ur just starting out. Protects the youth and locks the door right? Ackthem or whatever your guidance tells you to do basically cope.
cassichase
cassichase
Sounds like that personality could be suffering with BPD - Boarder line Personality Disorder traits. One of the characteristics of a BPD is fear of abandonment. Once I became integrated from 12 personalities I found out that I, myself was BPD. So I had to learn how to deal with my abandonment issues. I benefited a lot from DBT therapy. It did amazing things for me. But I went once I was integrated. I'm not sure how it would work with one who still struggles with DID. Do you have a therapist? I would highly recommend that! I also think if you could get that personality who is triggered by abandonment to work on what triggers her (the PTSD that is behind it) get some healing from it that may decrease her abandonment fears also. There is a great therapy called ART - Accelerated Resolution Therapy that I went through that helped my personalities process their PTSD and bring healing to remove their triggers. It was amazing it worked! Well, I wish you the best. Oh and above all...Pray! God is a God of miracles still!