hi Nancy
I'm not a multiple so i have no personal experiences i can share with you. I've known friends here in this group to have experiences similar to your situation. When for whatever reason their host personality goes deep and becomes unavailable. I think the alters can often feel a little anxious about it . But i've personally never known the host to not surface again. Sometimes it can take a little while is all. I tend to think that if you weren't able to look after your body you wouldn't be out. And perhaps you have a special ability or skill that is needed right now?

oh, and welcome to the group. It 's soemwhat inactive at the moment, but i'm sure members will to share their experiences with you
kevin

Thank you Kevin. You sure do know a lot of information about DID without being one who suffers with it. I guess my host must be really overwhelmed with some trauma to require a personality to come out, since she has not switched for about 2 years. I am a strong one, not very emotional. Now I can see why she needs me, but I'm getting so tired!

As Peoples with DID, We can only say...

We don't know how or if You feel Your Others...but...for Us...They reside somewhere inside Our body or brain, and if We can't feel Them, then They are gone.

She might just need some time off. It's hard being Out all the time. Everyone needs a break sometimes.

The real question is...
If She doesn't come back, can You live Her life for Her, or will You make it Your own?

♡SBR♡

I'm guessing that there's something special about you that your others need right now - but if you've never been out for this long before, then i'ts not surprising that you're feeling tired. Please treat yourself gently won't you? Make sure you have enough time put aside just for yourself to do things you enjoy, whether it be reading or listening to music or watching movies or having a particular type of food? We all need to do this.

StonieRhode raises soemthing important. Are you aware of any of your others? Perhaps every now and then tehy can spend a little time out, giving you time to rest? Are you in contact with them? I had one friend in a similar situation to yours, i think she created an internal room where she could leave messages for her host and others that had disappeared to come across. I can't remember if she created a whiteboard in the room or wrote on it's walls, but eventually her host and others found the room and slowly came back. You might have a different method that is more suitable for you?

but i do think the most important thing at the moment is ot treat yourself gently, you're here and out for a reason that is important for all your others, is what i think.

Thank you everyone. Your input has confirmed what my therapist has been saying to me.

Hello Nancy, I am not an alter, but I have them. My main alter was in control for a very long time (as I have very significant gaps in my memory). It is good to be worried, if I were you, I would let her know that you are concerned about her, that could help get her back.

Hello, I'm actually new here and I don't have DID or anything like that. It's just that a really close friend of mine has been gone for about 63 days now (I've been counting) and the one who is living her life is her transitory alter, an 11 year old girl named Lisa. I know what happened to the host in the past, I know the whole story and my friends and I have supported and cheered her up, saying it wasn't her fault for what happened to her best friend (it was another person's fault). She was so happy because the misconception in her past life was cleared up but suddenly Lisa appeared. By the looks of it, Lisa doesn't want to leave the body at all. Is it possible for a transitory alter to stop the host from coming back? Is it still possible for the host to come back?

Just wanted to update everyone. I'm back. I thank God. After Nancy got so tired of being out for a long time Nora came out and took her place. They both helped me get some rest. I was just at my end of exhaustion and could no longer live. So, instead for committing suicide I switched. It took me a long time to come back, but I'm better now. I'm rested. I know that some of you mentioned that when I was watching from the inside of what Nora was doing on the outside was actually me learning how to be more like her. That's exactly what happened. I learned how she dealt with things in such a mindful and confident way that she had became my personality also. we integrated. Praise God. So, to your question Mireds, I believe if a host wants to come back she will.

Thank you everyone for your encouragement and support!

Good to hear that, cassichase :) Thanks for answering my question. Continue living, have a great day and God bless you.

welcome back Cassie, it's good to hear that you're rested and safe. I'm glad you had Nancy and Nora willing to come out for you when they were needed. Please say Hi to the both of them for me
kevin