Multiple Personalities Support Group

Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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lucklessromance 04/13/2015

I am new here. I have been very unaware that I am in fact an alter. The main person is a woman who is married to a man. I am a man. I have been active for what seems like 5 months straight. I guess somewhere inside I knew that I am an alter, but a week ago, it became known very fast and very harshly. I disappeared. I am back now, but I am trying to make sense of things still.

I fell in love with a woman and have been in a relationship with her since January. My world was perfect. My life was perfect. We planned kids, marriage, moving in together. She was caught in the middle of my crumbling world last week. I am very much in love with her and it's so very painful to see her hurting so bad. My entire life that I knew, was all in my head.

I don't even know where I'm going with this post or if it even makes any sense, but I guess... I am an alter, who didn't know he was an alter, and it hurts so bad that I can't be a separate bodied person.

john12as 04/14/2015

Welcome to the group.
I feel you. I lost a girlfriend that way.
I hope your system can work out an arrangement so that different parts can meet their needs.

(((Hugs)))

vqueen 04/14/2015

:'( know I am as lost as you. and I still love you very much.

littlelucyx3 04/16/2015

That sounds so very horrible. I am really sorry. :(

k2hsharpe 04/17/2015

i'm not gonna pretend i could ever understand how this works, nor how confusing and frightening and devastating this must be for you. For all of you. And for the woman in your life. But i'm sure you'll find a lot of wonderful people here that will help support you through this

mamoth 04/28/2015

I hear ya. I feel the same way.

chiaroscuroswy 05/21/2015

I wish I could say I'm so sorry, but I know that won't help. I can't even begin to imagine. My male alter knew that I existed and that he was an alter all my life. I can't even begin to know your pain. I wish so much that you could have that separate body that you deserve. I have wished that so much for my own alters for months now. Even looking into research of the afterlife for them, for validation, for hope. Is there any way you can talk to your host about what you need? I try to give my alters what they need. It isn't enough, I know. But I try to daily find a balance. I don't get everything I need either, as I spend time on them, and I think that soothes their pain.
Is there any way you can instead communicate with your alter? I just wonder if you can't communicate your immense pain with your alter some way. Relationships are a spectrum and a gray zone where D.I.D. is considered. For some persons there can be wiggle room. It's 2015, pansexual relationships exist, polyamorous relationships exist. I just wonder if there isn't some way to not grieve so much but hold onto hope that you can share this love with her. I'm chronically ill and old with no hope of romance, and I just hate to see it fall apart if it doesn't have to. *gentle hugs*

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