Multiple Personalities Support Group

Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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somtimesimme 03/03/2018

I've recently run into the issue of people claiming that my alter has done things that I know did not take place. They are naming times I am fully aware of not times when an alter is present and I'm unaware and stating that I am doing things such as "trying to seduce them" when I am fully aware of the incident and I had spent 30 minutes trying to be as kind as possible about point blank turning down his advances. But everyone knows I'm "crazy" and now they are claiming it is one of my alters and that's the only reason my family is willing to help me now. I'm scared and angry (which for me is new cause I'm always to scared to get angry for myself) and I just don't know what to do but I can't keep letting someone try to use my mental illness as an excuse to behave inappropriately then blame me. What am I supposed to do?

k2hsharpe 03/04/2018

that is such a bastard thing to do to a person, to use your vulnerability against you in the worst way. Is this a form of what they call Gaslighting?

If you can, turn your back to people that try to manipulate you like this? They simply do not deserve to share your life. If you can't turn your back to them, then do your best to avoid them, and try never to be alone with them? You shouldn't have to put up with shit like this
kevin

somtimesimme 03/04/2018

Thank you. I'm always the first to second guess my behavior and emotions as to whether it's "the normal right reaction" or based on my mental illness. It always makes me feel like I'm guilty of other's bad behavior and gets me down. Today I finally said something to my cousin about it and she had no idea he had said the same thing about her two years ago. I accidentally broke the news to her unintentionally thinking she already knew. Now I have a heart broken cousin and my aunt overheard most of the conversation and she is now talking to my uncle and I have no idea how things are going to end. But I stuck up for myself in a mature calm fashion and I am weirdly proud of that. I never stick up for myself lol

k2hsharpe 03/05/2018

for some of us it's never ready to stick up for ourselves. We'll done, you can be justifiably proud of yourself. I hope your cousin recovers from the shock quickly

somtimesimme 03/07/2018

My cousin seems to be a little more on the quiet side since all this happened but she isn't showing any negative behavior toward me so I know she's upset and processing everything but not mad at me over my uncle's lies. My Aunt and Uncle have neither spoken to me or even made eye contact. They basically being what I feel is immature and unhealthy mentally regarding dealing with the situation but that's coming from me so...pot and kettle and all that. My cousin tried to talk to my aunt but she just told her out right she was not going to talk about it.

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