Multiple Personalities Support Group

Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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JessicaChase 12/12/2011

My theropist thinks that my 4 year old Annie should start growing up. But I like her the way she is. Her and my daughter have spent some good quality time together. I like Annie when we get scared we switch to her she knows the best plces to hide. Bunny keeps her safe. Has anybody else experience growing up or just staying the same age all your life?

deleted_user 12/12/2011

i have never experienced an alter who was only one age to grow up but I perfear that mine stay the age they are.

tyzz27 12/12/2011

I have only had one alter grow up in age whos name is Cody. He started out the age of 4 but now is 9 and now doesnt want to grow any older for some reason which I havnt worked out why. My Last therapist said the problem with DID personalities is that they dont ever grow up but I too wonder if this is a problem. I dont think it is. I think if the personalities stay the age they are it gives us a special insight into the world. How often do specialists claim that children take in everything that the wo0rld has to offer them but as adults we close off to things that are possible because of our own fears. I think Ill let the personalities stay at any age they want to be. If they want to become older thats up to them and if they choose not to well then I accept that.

stephanietram 12/12/2011

My Steffi was 3 but grew up. We don't know how old she is now. She can do more stuff, but not like a grown-up. She can read script, and see in color, but she can't cook or play bass, or teach school.

deleted_user 12/13/2011

Your therapist thinks she should grow up? Is it really within his/her authority to demand that someone grow up? Sounds like she's trying to rush the integration process before you've worked through the issues that have made you multiple.

I have heard that when alters feel they have been heard, valued, and supported, they may begin to grow on their own... at their own pace.

My Tia seems to have grown some... She's still a teenager, but seems more mature now than when I first started talking with her, and she's become a protector for the younger ones. I'm not asking her to age (and neither is my therapist). It seems to be happening on its own, and has been something of a surprise to me.

You gotta trust your instincts, my friend. No one knows how to heal you better than you yourself, so if it feels right, do it - If it doesn't, tell your therapist so, so that together you can adjust her strategy to something more helpful to you.

~ Wistala

BluAngel2 12/13/2011

I had one that was was 3 then grew to 7 and is now 15....sooo...yeah...it happens. Sai will always be the one who everyone has a soft spot for. I think that when she is ready, she can grow up. but until then...no

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