Multiple Personalities Support Group

Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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hopeless25 11/01/2012

Please help us :'( i dont know what to do anymore.. Ever since we found out that our abuser will be back for christmas and he left me a message Takiah has been drinking almost everyday.. We can't think straight and i feel like takiah is trying to take control but we cant allow that to happen.. I dont kno what to do... I'm scared, we are all scared and we can't focus in class and have been really switchy.. Today in class Takiah wanted to cry we tried so hard to hold back the tears to the point that we had a panic attack and could not breath.... what to do :( please help

kiki

k2hsharpe 11/01/2012

can you visit with friends or family over christmas?
just escape somwhere?

hopeless25 11/01/2012

The one place i could run to no longer going to be their.. They are selling the house and my best friend is moving across the country :(

k2hsharpe 11/01/2012

can you save money or sell stuff to go spend time with your best friend? Perhaps your family / parents / friends would all chip in to buy you a ticket instead of Xmas presents?

deleted_user 11/01/2012

Is there any way you can escape being at home then? Let me think of any ideas and I'll PM you. Do you have a protector alter?

hopeless25 11/01/2012

Idk i hate feeling like a burden :-( idk if we have a protector idk who the host is suppose to be i feel like i have been in a dream for so long and finally waking up ....i'm lost

deleted_user 11/01/2012

Is there one alter who is out the most? who makes most of your decisions, like going to school and homework? It seems like Takiah and Kiki almost share being host? Or one is a very strong alter?

As far as being a burden... what would you rather do, be with the abuser or be with safe people who you can trust but make you feel like you're imposing? I would pick feeling like a burden to feeling like I could be a victim again. What I'm looking into is an organization that can help. Still looking.

hopeless25 11/01/2012

Teekie is out the most she makes the decisions but i have been out a lot lately.. Btw hi i'm kiki .. I kno your right its just so hard :-/ part of me says suck it up.. other part says run.. i hate reverting back to a little kid when put into this position i just want to curl up and cry

hopeless25 11/01/2012

Its like why must we be punished for him.. Why do i have to run and miss out on christmas with my godson with my family because of him..havent i suffered enough ..havent i lost enough its not fair not fair

deleted_user 11/01/2012

That is the hardest thing, being alone at x-mas. And nothing about abuse is ever fair. I'm so sorry that you can't really win because you can be safe and lose the holiday or not safe and be with family. It sucks.

hopeless25 11/01/2012

It just sucks because for so long i had to hid and for so long i was alone i don't want to have to go threw that again and plus my parents wont let me leave on christmas.... Yes Sade can take over but i dont want her to do that even if she says she wants it... Its like being stuck between a rock and a hard place

deleted_user 11/01/2012

Can you ask anyone at home to have your back and help you be safe?

hopeless25 11/01/2012

My mother, my sister were both sexually abused thats why i think they just ignore it with me cauas no one knows how to handle it.... My sister is a alcoholic antisocial person who stays in her room

john12as 11/02/2012

this may sound like a joke but im actually serious because i've been in similar situation as you describe: I used to escape to AA, (alcoholics anonymous meetings) all day on holidays. They were a safe crowd to hang with and would offer me coffee and the Alano Clubs often have potlucks open to everyone on the holidays.
I would just goto meetings all day and listen, sometimes I would get shit off my chest and it felt good.
Safe place, food, and friendly atmosphere....no charge.
ps. i also got a lot from the 12 steps which could help you as well

deleted_user 11/02/2012

im gonna say the unpopular thing. if you can't leave, if you really can't leave, just use the alter that wants it or can deal with it. sometimes that's all we can do.

but john has a great idea, i wish i would have known about that type of stuff when i was 20.

love mari

moonface21 11/02/2012

12 step groups saved my life, especially Survivors of Incest Anonymous and AL Anon.There, I found the warmth of a real family, help on all levels, including a car boot full of food when I had nothing to eat.In those rooms, there is real sharing and angels ready to give you a hand.
I know it is terrifying to first push the door but you will not regret it.
You deserve to meet friends who will help you to be safe and happy for Christmas.

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