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Dissociative identity disorder is a diagnosis described as the existence in an individual of two or more distinct identities or personalities, each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment. At least two of these personalities are considered to routinely take control of the individual's behavior, and there is also some associated memory loss,...

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Does anybody else fear their child?

JessicaChase
JessicaChase
I was not sure where to put this question, but I need to know. Does anybody else fear their adult child? Since my illness really took over my life, I and my other personalities fear my son. He's 22, married and in the Army over seas. When my illness really started to take over my life, 7 years ago, he becme insensitive, rude, disrespectful, does not take my illness seriously and he does not hide his disgust he feels towards me. Every time I think he has changed something happens and his abusive ways start all over again. My daughter who is older than he is totally gets my illness and loves me anyway. I raised them both the same. Yet, they are so different from each other. My heart aches for the love I cannot seem to share with my son.
I'm going to repost this to other groups just to get more respnses.
john12as
john12as
i'm sorry for your heartache ... it is a problem when family members don't take illnesses seriously....in fact, it is not unusual for family members to be in denial or choose not to educate themselves about the illness.
He may be holding onto resentments against the illness but this is only speculation.

With greater knowledge and understanding usually follows compassion, and so in order to repair the relationship it may be necessary for a third party to mediate and healthy dialogue.
DarkGypsyG
DarkGypsyG
not my children don't have any.... my husband. in the beginning he did not handle it well at all. of course it didn't help that some of us were trying to kill him without the others knowing. even today though improved there are still issues. he is not the best at controling his temper and we have had a few run ins over the years. but i atribute that to a combination of things. (Machivlli will probobly start a seperate post on his theories) but yes we have faced the issue of fear of family both imediate and extended. other relatives have been just a disrespectful and abusive because they had their own denial of their problems so they took it out on us to keep from facing their own shortcomings and skelitons.
JessicaChase
JessicaChase
Good insight thanks!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi, I'm sorry that must be very challenging and painful. I don't have children, but I can imagine that it must be very difficult. I think you should take steps to protect yourself from him, and be clear with him what loving and compassionate behavior is... if he wants to have a caring relationship with you he needs to own his feelings and mature himself. Perhaps he felt his childhood needs weren't met when you needed to heal yourself, and the anger comes from that sense of abandonment... or perhaps he feels the stigma of it all is unbearable to him, and he needs to mature himself past that... I just think, no matter what, you should feel safe - and it doesn't matter what the relationship is... And that he should rise to the occasion.
stephanietram
stephanietram
following. This is really hard.
DarkGypsyG
DarkGypsyG
(((((hug))))) stephanie