my husband and I were invited for lunch at my son's place.He and his wife Karine have a 6 year old boy;She is 5 months pregnant with a girl.
I have been become gradually suspicious that my grand son is being abused by his grand father, Karine's father;whose family live next door and baby sit because my son is a police officer and she is an educator in a home for handicaped adults.in fact, their home is built on the field given by the grand parents, next door.
I started noticing signs in my grand son, sleep terros, regressing to baby , not wanting to be physically touched, screaming at the thermometer.my husband and i both had nightmares he was being molested;
When i disclosed the fact I was an incest survivoe, karine suddenly rememberd being molested by her uncle but she said she had been able to stop him (at 12)
Once remarkably, my husband "forgot" his bag at their place after a family meeting, we were very surprised to find the grand father sitting in their living room, watching TV, when his own home is next door;he felt at home.Then, again,I forgot mine.
I spoke to my son about protecting his child from abuse.he tryed to confort me, saying they were very mindful;They are with the outside people but does not enter their mind about the grand dad;
In our own home, i deliberately spoke of my abuse in front of my grand child;he demanded a piece of papaer and did a strange drawing which freaked me out, like a scene of abuse.
Last Sunday, My inner parts were screaming in the car;I was terrified of going to the meal.Once there, everything seemed normal until Karines cousin gets me talking about dissociation, how is it possible to forget memories of abuse.I start talking about my experience, I felt deep antagonism coming from the grand da and his wife;The conversation goes onto another cousin who was sexually abused;Avoidance from the grand ma who suddeny leaves the room while, under the table, a little hand is grabbing my ankle;it is my grand son who has benn hidding undr and is listening;
my husband agrees there is something very dysfunctional there;We are both survivors.he is also freaked out by the situation; but is afraid we might make a terrible mistake by projecting our own reactivation of incest.
But what if we are right, if a child is being abused under our eyes, and a new one is going to go there for babysitting.I must add that my son was also abused by my father but is i complete dissociation from it;
It seems strange to me that since I have come out of "denial" Iseem to be able to "detect" sex offenders.
How does this work?
Thanks for reading my long post.All this makes me very anxious.I am going to talk about it to my psychitrist on Wednesday;