some alters are too scared to reveal too much and wish to stay incognito for a while until they feel safe, but each persons alters have their own reasons...

ideally, you will be able to ask the alter yourself as you begin to build connections with different parts in your system...

there are different types of alters...some are like fragments and not fully developed so the answer to your question will depend on other factors...

ultimately it comes down to getting to know and understand how your system is built or designed....how developed or how much depth each alter has

Not only did he cut my hair he dyed my hair. I am very upset. My other alters would never do such a thing so I know it's him.

talk with him? Ask why and if there is anything else he'd like? Somethings might be doable for you, some things not. You might be able to more or less agree, but perhaps at least no more surprises?

I've tried talking to him. He does not give me a lot of information. The one thing he does do is pushes me at the gym.

cool, maybe i could hire him as a personal trainer , i'm trying to lose weight...tee hee

Lol. I just found out last night that my alter Jennifer told my husband she knew his name but could only write it down. For whatever reason. So i guess his name is his name is Jace.

Sometimes an alter won't tell you their name and that can be for a few reasons. Sometimes they are shy, scared or even sometimes need more time to know you better. Sometimes some personalities don;t like talking because they are quiet and prefer to write things on paper. While others are strait forward. Although it helps to find their interests and go from there, mine i usually gave names to other ones of mine gave me their names. it usually is a give and take situation with personalities. Sometimes they can be helpful while others aren't so much a help. Usually it is good to let all the personalities work together soemtimes they dont and it is not fun but others maybe feel like their name has to be a secret since it could potentially be somethign they can't be saying.

My therapist said he has a very masculine persona and he heard an undercurrent of anger when he spoke. I hear him sometimes but when I try to talk to him he does not really respond.

My alter when my friend coaxed her out fully for the first time wouldn’t give her name because all she felt she didn’t have one. So she prompted me to research until we found one she liked. She doesn’t talk to me very often so I simply called her my other self. That’s what she identified herself as too until we found her a name.

Have you tried different methods to talk to jace? I found Fiona responds more through writing of poetry - we’ll have full on conversations through verse.

He's with me a lot at the gym and sometimes in the car. I try to talk to him. Sometimes I feel this rage in me I never use to feel. I know what angry feels like but this is like a rage.