I guess take the time to explain to the Littles that this therapist can still help with some of the problems no matter what label is attached to your diagnosis?
I don't really have much advice, sorry, but wanted to let you know that I care
xx

you know there is nothing wrong with a second opinion. you don't have to totally switch. they could run that scid questionnaire on you and interview you for 2 or 3 sessions. Just make sure its someone who has worked with DID before. Good luck.

I can see the problem, because it's kinda a big deal what she thinks of your dx--your therapy is based off the dx.
I think it's understandable that not all your littles will like your spouse. But divorce is not about liking your spouse or not. Give it time till you feel better.

Well...I forgot about this post and...
I told my therapist that "the kids" basically thought she was saying they are make-believe, and were mad. Wanted me to go talk to someone else.
She apologized-said she never meant to imply they were not real or not important.
They were very impressed with a grownup...actually apologizing to them! This was a first.

...I think, last weekend, I have identified the problem. She has never felt sexual desire for any person, EVER.(I used the word lust, but clarified).
Now we have epic communication problems, so I am waiting until we get to the couples' counselor again to try and bring this up, again, and double-check, and triple check...

I believe she's a lifelong asexual and not aware of it.

I have read about DID's being called asexual and i do not agree. we have sexuality but it's not in the same sense that others have it--it's very misunderstood.
i'm glad you are working things out with your therapist.

No, SHE'S asexual.

I'M the terminally frustrated one...

oh, im sorry, i misread it as a female alter. lol Do you think it might be a fear of intimacy? Curious. Anyway, hope you get to the bottom of it.

...Um, speaking of miscommunication...

My WIFE is asexual. I'm not.
This problem is scrambling my brains.

....I assume my therapist to have sexual relations with her spouse, but I really don't need to know, you know?

could it be that your spouse is having difficulty figuring out how she fits in your system of life? Mine has that problem. We work on it now and then, but it's really hard for him (more than me because I usually am oblivious).

I'm curious...how can you be helped if your helper does not acknowledge your illness? 8 years.....sliding scale...it is all possible to find a counselor that can help you with all your issues. I know it's tough repeating your issues , but I'm sure you will learn something new from everything you share when you find the right counselor!

The little ones are part of you. If they don't like her part of you dosn't like her and you need to work together to resolve it. We all didn't agree on a therapist becouse some felt rejected by her so we swiched therapists its still hard though becouse some don't want therapy at all and so we have to resolve that. Its not easy we have internal wars going on upstairs lol Its concerning that you have alters who don't like your wife you should find out if it is becouse they are children alters and its over little things like spousal arguments that there scared of or if she has hurt them in some way and they took that abuse for you so you are not remembering. A trauma specialist that can't see that you have DID dosn't sound verry good to me.

Here's the thing, the treatment for DID is different than the treatment for standard or complex PTSD. If your therapist doesn't believe you have DID, but you know this to be true, you have to think about what kind of therapy you are getting and whether or not it can possibly help you.

I am not telling you to stop seeing your therapist. I can't imagine how hard it must be to be in the position to make that decision. The trick here is figuring out what's best for you. If working with someone who denies your experience is what is best for you, then you stay with her. If leaving, to find someone who acknowledges your situation is best, then that's what you do.

I know I've just stated that in a very simple way, but it isn't simple. I know that. Good luck.

Well...she...does agree the kids are real and important. She apologized to them for implying they were not.

They just LOVED this, a grownup apologizing to them...

Basically, my therapist is using family-systems therapy at this point when it seems warranted.

She calls what I have ego-state disorder; I think I am a VERY mild case of DID. Apparently family-systems is helpful stuff either way, and it just seems natural to relate to the kids as, well, kids.

As to whether she is right or not?

Strictly speaking, the kids don't really come out on their own except for very rare occasions. Our emotions run into each other...
I feel theirs during good times, in time of stress they absorb the bad feelings and take them away. So, sort of shock absorbers.

I believe Shawn has taken over a total of 3 times...usually it's myself and one or more others, operating in tandem...Fisher's good at being social and outgoing. Shawn is on the lookout for threats, always.
Joy operates behind me when she feels like it, too...and I am suddenly exploding in LOVE for everyone and everything...which is ...utterly amazing. Also, she tends to want cookies.