That'd work!

That would be perfect! What a wonderful idea!!

I want to amend my original post to include that this atom bomb would first slowly sear their genitalia for a good while before they finally parish in a heap of shame and disgrace!

Genius, you are, Wheezie! My protector, Peter, made the comment of:"Yeah! Let's blow those motherf***ers up!

So what you're saying is you want to abuse them back? We need to BREAK the cycle, not perpetuate it.

No what I am saying is I wish them a painful death.A death they truly deserve.That in itself breaks the cycle of abuse.Hope do you feel no anger towards your abusers? Because I will inform you of this.Anger towards abusers is natural and healing.It shows that you are placing the blame of what happened to you on where it belongs.Abusers do not deserve the right to be considered amongst the rest of us.They gave up that right when they became an abuser.Most abusers are habitual sociopaths.I know I have many of them in my own family.An atom bomb to them would do the world a favor.If you have any other questions about abusers I would suggest you watch the Oprah interview of Andrew Sachhs.He has the right idea.
http://www.wallsofsilence.com/musicvideo.php?vid=de8bac478

There's a distinct difference between having/expressing anger, and realizing that wishing ill on others truly does perpetuate the cycle. You take a healthy emotion and cause it to fill yourself with bitterness and revenge instead of letting go. I still keep in contact with my abusive parents, despite the "anger" I am supposed to have for them, because instead of wanting them to die some horrible awful death, I want them to realize their mistakes and apologize. It may never happen. I know it's highly unlikely. But I'd like to think that people can change and feel bad for the things they've done when they are confronted with the reality of the pain that others have experienced from their actions. Good people make mistakes, and may just need a little boost to help get themselves straightened out.

OR I can be filled with hatred. Ruin people's lives by telling them how horrible and awful an abuser was. Spend all my time thinking about how horrible this person was. But that really doesn't cause healing, only more pain. You aren't forgiving them, you aren't moving on, you're letting it control your life and not breaking the cycle. Letting your negative emotions control you makes you one of them. Anger is healthy, but that is not what you're demonstrating here.

Forgiveness for me has a completely different meaning.It is a cleansing of myself of these destructive people but not until they have payed for what they have done.When they do pay then I will be done with them completely. I gave them 33 years of chances(I'm sure you gave your abusers many chances as well) to realize their faults and they refuse.Their denial is beyond them.Sociopaths,sadist and narcissist will never learn because that is what fuels them.They take pleasure from that and love seeing people in pain.They search for people to victimize.People who are always willing to forgive. I use to be that way but all that did was give them more opportunities to abuse me. If you haven't watched the Andrew Sachhs interview I highly reccomend. He says the same exact thing. By the way I am not consumed by hatred,bitterness or anger. Nor has it hindered my healing in one bit.As a matter of fact it has propelled me to learn the psychology of abusers and also to seek justice for the wrongs they have done to me. If I was consumed by such things I would not be hear supporting other people. I would most likely be out killing one of my abusers or self harming in some other way.

Also, Ruin someones life by telling them how awful an abuser is? How does that ruin someone elses life? I would think it would have the opposite effect by warning them that this person is an abuser and to keep their children away from them so they are not able to abuse them as well.

I think it depends on the abuse we are talking about. But my husband just said, "Everyone is an abuser to someone."

he's getting all philosophocal on me now. lol

I see both of your points and you are both great at conveying them.

Thats true Snuffleupagus.In my original post I was speaking mostly of rapists and child molesters thus the amendment of burning their genitalia off before they die.This whole post was a joke of course but apparently it turned into something else.My real stance on it is exactly that of Andrew Sachhs. I would give these abusers life in prison without parole and make them work to support themselves while in prison so the tax payers aren't burdened by them.

Forgiveness and what forgiveness means is a touchy subject. :p

I thought it was a joke from just the first post, in which case I'd have not posted what I did. The addendum was what changed my mind. Something that graphic and specific is... rather disturbing and hard to think you hadn't said out of some specific hatred or anger. Sorry I misinterpreted it.

Also, rapists and child molesters have a special level of hell with the people who talk/don't turn their cell off in theaters.

yes. that would be wonderful. Those who hurt me would be dead. Those that hurt others would be dead. I would be dead. It would be a good thing.
Monica

12 is writing to a man serving life for killing the nonce who killed his cousins' abuser.

He should have got a medal.

He really wants a woman, but I explained we are too damaged.

He should be getting fan mail. So he gets mine.

Is that a bad thing?

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