yes but we can't act like we are all ok

we need attention, we need healing...sorry I know you want a career, etc.

(((hugs)))

I don't want to worry about we anymore I want to worry about me :( I wish they would just go away

I hear ya. You have a life to live and can't have them all causing chaos and going on tangents and having parties when it's time to study for the exam tomorrow. It looks like you have established a priority, and that is to get through school so you can have a career and get out of that abusive environment. The first priority for counselors is to get the person out of the abusive dangerous situation. And I understand that that means you have to focus.

How many classes are you planning on taking? I know for me, with all my symptoms I had to cut my classes in a half. I couldn't take a full course load. I also found that staying in the school environment to finish school assignment helped me to stay focused. Good luck.

I'm taking 6 classes :-/ and as of right now I might have to move home and be out back into that situation :( I can't afford to stay on campus .. But I have a meeting with the head of res life and that's causing so much stress right now :(

1. Put a sign up looking for interest from others who want to live off campus at a more affordable prce
2. See if the campus can help you find a place to board. I know for 12 months I boarded with an elderly lady. It wasn't ideal but I got good meals, decent safe quiet room, and was far cheaper than living on campus
3. if you have a therapist tell your therapist that you need strategies to get your internals to understand that there are more benefits to cooperating and allowing you top graduate rather than immediate gratification right now
4. Unfortunately there always have to be compromises. I am having the same difficulty atm having gone back to full time study and having major dissociation. So unfortunately we need to provide time for them to be out otherwise they will just force the issue.
5. This is difficult to keep in check but if possible contracts about self harm of any sort needs to be set up so that individuals are harming the body including all night parties.

These are only suggestions and ones that I am having to use myself now that I have gone back to full time study.

6 is a lot. 5 is the average full load, especially if you have to work part time. If you take too many then the grades are hard to keep up.

Can you possibly tell someone at the school about the abuse at home and get housing in a different place through Social Services?

Thank you for the tips tyzz and I know it's a lot but I need to graduate :-/ xa1 and I'll working with some people at school and they found a place but it burnt down couple days ago.:(

well, usually they find other places pretty quickly. They have that sort of organizational experience. Maybe they can still help with your need.

Oh, no! I hope nobody was hurt!