HI
FIRST, I'M SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. AS FAR AS LETTING GO THAT'S A HARD ONE TO ANSWER. LOST MY MOM 17 YEARS AGO-SOMETIMES I FEEL I'VE LET GO , THEN OUT OF THE BLUE RIGHT BACK TO FEELING
THE LOSS SO BADLY AND NOT LETTING GO. OTHERS MAY FEEL DIFFERENTLY AS WE ALL ARE DIFFERENT BUT, THIS HAS BEEN MY EXPERIENCE. SORRY I COULD''NT HELP YOU MORE. HANG IN THERE IT'S ONLY BEEN A SHORT TIME. AS TIME GOES ON YOU WILL FIND YOUR ANSWER. WILL KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS.
HUGS
JUDANNA

Donna it has been almost 5 months for me and my thoughts still every day center around my mom. I don't think one day has gone by that I haven't thought about my mom for the most part of the day..as for letting go I don't think that is something we will ever do. we lost a huge part of ourselves when we lost our moms and that is going to be very hard to accept. Hopefully someday as I am told we will learn to live along side of the pain but you never forget the pain and let it go completley. I just try to live with the thoughts that someday I will see her again and what a sweet reunion that will be! BIG HUGS to you ~Angela

It's almost been 4 months for me as well. I always say we never let go or move on from our MOMS but we do carry on...with all the wonderful memories and things we've learned from our MOMS. There is a song by Josh Groban called Never Let Go that is so special to me now re: this way of thinking. ~Marcie

4 1/2 months and at 3 weeks I was wondering why I was no longer crying; how could that be? Well, at 2-4 months I was crying more than at the beginning. It comes and goes. There is no rhyme or reason, it is what it is, just go with it. When do we let go? NEVER. We learn to build a "different" life - one that doesn't include Mom. But I venture to say we never stop forgetting, or thinking about her, or wishing she were here, or wish we could talk to her "one more time", or have her hold us "one more time". At one point, that was my mantra - "just one more time". To touch her one more time, one more phone call - I finally realized "one more time" would never be enough.

Its been 25 years, and I think I have let go. Letting go, to me, is acceptance, that this is the way it will be forever in my life. Mom is gone, and in my case, dad is too. My tears come only when an event warrants it, such as my daughter's graduation or maybe a new birth in the family, then I think of my mom and wishing she were here to share it.

Donna, its only been 4 months. Its taken me years to get to this point. Let time help heal your heart. In the meantime, think of your mom with love and smiles, and dry your tears with the knowledge you'll all meet again someday...

I don't think she will ever go away because she is in your spirit. She made you with her flesh and blood. You are continually bonded to her and always will be. Love, Joy

Donna, it's ok to still mourn your mom. My mom died over a year ago, and it still hurts. Hurtingx2 is correct - there is no timetable when dealing with this. Some days, you'll think of your mom and smile; others will just bring a torrent of tears. All you can do is just take it one day at a time. Just know that there are people who understand, and we're here to listen whenever you need an ear. Hugs, Bel

I don't know.....what does letting go mean? Does it mean that you don't cry inconsolably? I don't think I'll ever let go. I want to desperately hold on to everything and anything I can that I identify as having to do with my mom.

It will be 1 year on the 27th of July....*deep breath*...I don't know what letting go means, but I don't want to let go of anything!

i am going on five months myself, I can not get past it, it's like it is yesterday. I deal with it all day everyday, I guess this is my life now. I am sorry for your loss, the biggest loss of our lives. I am a sinking ship. Lost in the world with out her.forever.

Hi there
It is 8 months since my mum passed, but dad was rushed into hospital on Sunday and I just wanted to call mum. Unfortunately dad passed this Tuesday. I know that they are back together again as they were together for over 40 years. I think this is whats keeping me going.
Nel

It is almost nine months since my mom passed and I am far from letting go and/or acceptance. I just try to get through each day as it comes. My thoughts are with you, Sharon

I am not sure we ever let go. To a degree maybe. mom died a year ago in March and I can't let go. I have improved greatly but there is not a day go by I don't think of her a million times. My emotions can go either way with it too. Nina

Donna,
My deepest sympathy for you. I lost my mom Jan-22-2006 and there are days still, that I dont want to get out of bed. I feel that its not about "Letting Go" its about "Moving Past" you never need to let her memories go, or the love you have for her. Letting your Mom go is not the same as letting her death go. That will come in time, and when its the right time, you will know. Thinking of you~
Nina