Motherless Daughters Community Group

For any daughter who has lost their mother, whether through Death (if it's been one day ago or 40 years ago) or Abandonment, (i.e.-drug abuse, mental illness, physical or emotional abuse, etc.) and is working through the grief process. This group provides unconditional support and understanding from women who have also lost their Moms and who truly care.

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Marci10 02/22/2010

2/21/10 marked one year my Mother has been gone from me. I am just still so numb, scared, filled with fear, angry, you name the emotion and I have it !!!! I am more afraid than anything like am I going to make it without her. She was my anchor for so long my pivotal person to go to with anything and everything. Making it without her seems just impossible to me. Does anyone feel the fear that I have all time of not making it or who to turn to in life?

Thanks
Marci

Jhelum 02/22/2010

Yes, I do and I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost mine about 3 weeks back and I don't know how to get back into the boat called life.
But I'm trying. The first step was to join this board. I got loads of help and advice from people who have gone through the same emotions as I and are still living them everyday.
I wish you start trying too. Although nothing seems to make sense for me at this time, I know in my heart that my ma would not like to see me they way I am right now. She couldn't ever bear to see me crying.
I'm hoping I pull through and I wish you the same.
Please keep writing to us.

debraccc 02/22/2010

I am so sorry that you are afraid and lonely. I lost my Mum 3 yeras ago this July and I am still grieving. Life without MUm is very lonely and I too am afraid that my life will never return to normal. Mums play such a pivotal role in our lives. I dont know what to tell you except to take one day at a time. Each day we make it through we will get a little stronger.I am thinking of you. Hang in there Honey
Hugs Deb

deleted_user 02/27/2010

Sometimes I have days like that too. My mom lost her own mother when she was young too. I remember how sometimes her grief seemed to hold her back and I know my mom would not want me to live like that. Sometimes when I feel like burying myself under the blankets I think about her giving me a pep talk, and it's off I go!

Marci10 03/01/2010

Thanks everyone for your kindness! One day at a time! Some might see it that I am wishing my life away but I am glad when another day passes because I feel it brings me one day closer to her.

Thanks Again Everyone and I hope
you are managing with your grief as well!

Love Ya's
Marci

deleted_user 03/01/2010

I just lost my mom a little over two weeks ago. It has been the hardest time of my life. Whenever I feel that I can't go on, I imagine how she would react to my behavior. She'd say: "get up, take care of my grandkids. Make me as proud as you always have." When I can't go on for me, I go on for her.

deleted_user 03/02/2010

After I lost my Mom I went thru that for a couple years. You never get over it but you learn to cope. Some days it doesn't seem real, others are a slap of reality and pain. You wish you could shake it. I found it helped to write down my feelings in my own personal journal. I wrote letters to my mom about what I was going thru and feeling. . You can't keep those feelings bottled up. Try it and see if it helps you. I also read a book callled 90 minutes in Heaven, by Don Piper. Its a true story about a guy who was pronounced dead twice after a bad car accident. He shares the good and the bad he experienced . It helped me. MD will always be here to listen. Have a blessed nite Marci..........JOY

Marci10 03/25/2010

Sorry haven't been on lately - thank u all for your replies - wow I am going to purchase that book. Thank U Joy!

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