Miscarriage Support Group

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When will it stop?

Mcrain86
Mcrain86

We lost our 2nd child on Oct. 3rd 2016. D&c on the 5th. It's now middle of March. I was doing so good. Yes it was a rollercoaster in the beginning but out of no were.... I'm back down. Everyone around me is pregnant (coworkers,best friend, little sister, and more) I truly am happy for them but we are... no... Were all due around the same time. So here I am... house is a mess, car is gross, my poor son wakes me now just in time to get to school so I have enough time to go to work. He is 6 1/2. My poor husband has seen me be gross. Unwashed hair, I am always sick to the point he thinks I'm a hypercondriac yet was confirmed this past Wednesday that I currently have the flu. But when will the depression end??? I take Prozac (it works... When I take it) but when can I STOP taking it??? When will I STOP crying every time I see a baby or commercial or hear my best friend talk about this amazing journey she is on with her third? 

milo91
milo91
I often wonder the same, when will I be able to hold it together when I see a pregnant woman, or little kids running around? I lost my first and only pregnancy at 16 weeks and we tried for many months to get pregnant before we did, so it feels so unfair when people talk about "oops it just happened!" like it doesn't rip out a piece of my soul. I hope you are holding in there, we're all in this together.
Halterbroke
Halterbroke
Honestly, it didn't really get better for me until I was actually holding my living son in my arms. I had IF for years, miscarried my first pregnancy, and was a nervous wreck all through my second pregnancy. Now we are trying for a baby brother or sister and all the infertility pain is back along with the terror of miscarriage as I am nearly 40 and the rates go up tremendously then. The best advice I can tell you is take your prozac and stay off social media. Therapy helped me immensely as well.
sarahlove
sarahlove
I don't think it ever will, I hope it just gets easier to deal with somehow. The more I read and hear other women's stories it gives me hope and helps me breath a little better. A counselor who has a similar story said even after her miscarriage 20 years ago there are days she just cries and lets it go. Pain of loosing a child never goes away.
fffFFF
fffFFF
Hi, I am really sorry, and would recommend seeing a doc. A friend of mine was in the same shoes. and only IVF PGS NGS solved her problem.
mkeith
mkeith
I know exactly how you are feeling. I had a miscarriage in September at 11 weeks. I have been a mess both physically and emotionally. I not only have been unable to get pregnant again but my cycle has been very irregular and I have been having night sweats every night. It’s almost as I’m premenopausal. I was fine before though! I too take an antidepressant, if the Prozac isn’t helping you may need to try something else.