Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
i miscarried a little over a week ago. i know it will take time emotionally to heal, if you ever heal. but what about the physical? my stomach cant decide if it wants to stay swollen or not, my back or sciatic HURTS all the time. my BF might be home in a week, and we might want to try again but i dont know if im ready for the trying. how soon is too soon physically to go back to sex? i was just wondering. i wanted to start working out heavily cause i need to do something to keep my mind out of the fog, out of the hurt. i cant go see my doctor cause he dont want to see me till after i have a period. im extremely moody and crazy really. i dont trust myself. i almost got in a fight in a restaurant the other day cause someone looked at me wrong. anyone any advice or suggesstions?
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I don't think that I will ever heal, I think we learn to deal with things. I myself am in a fog, and wonder when the air will clear. I do have hope that all will get better.I'm new to this site and hope that my words will help you in some way.
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I agree with Erodriguez... I don't think I will ever heal either and it is something you will always remember. I remember the dates, details etc. It is not fun and I just pray that I do get preg soon. I was told not to ttc again until after my next af the month after the mc. We have still been trying but nothing! I am here if you need to ask questions. I never did go back to the dr after the mc. I am tired of doctors.
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I lost Angel a little over four months ago and I would say for me that the first month and a half was the worst in terms of the pain. I have back trouble anyway but the pain in my lower back and abdomen was unbearable and I couldn't drive between feeling like a combination of being hung over and light headed. I just didn't trust myself behind the wheel..still don't although I am starting to get cabin fever. As far as when to resume sex, it varies from woman to woman; generally it is advised to wait after your first AF. That way time has passed for physical healing, like if you had to have a D & C. As for the emotional healing, I still wonder about that one. I don't think you ever totally heal; I think you just find a way to move forward but it is not easy. Emotional healing takes longer than the physical and quite frankly I think the scars run deeper.
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I was told to wait 3 months before trying again. I think that's a good number because physically I felt much better. I was terrified to have sex after my D&C. I waited two weeks and it was fine. Just listen to your body. It will tell you if your pushing it or not. Good luck!
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Congrats on surviving this far! The first week or two are the worst because your body is trying to release pregnancy hormones etc. Depending on how far along you were determines how fast you will recover and get pg again. I have heard it is good to wait until the emotional pain lightens up a bit, just so that you can be happy and stable for the pregnancy. Good luck! It really does get better I promise...not perfect, but life becomes enjoyable.
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