Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I have recently had a miscarrage at 19 Weeks pregnant. It has only been a a few weeks and i feel very emotionally unstable. Everyone around says Everything happens for a reason you have more time to try again .. But that isnt the point , i know that i have time i am young but it still kills me inside . The entire process was a TOTAL NIGHTMARE..how do I move on from here
Did you name your baby?
I lost my daughter at 21 weeks due to an incompetent cervix. It was absolutely heartbreaking and I blamed myself for awhile but I didn't do anything to cause it. When it comes to death we want answers and we want to blame someone, anyone because it is not fair.
It took me a LONG time to realize people who haven't experienced a similar loss (and even some who have had similar losses) don't understand. They also are trying to help you and don't realize it's not helpful and that it is hurtful. I have heard it all and sometimes these comments are downright jaw-dropping. No matter how you look at these insensitive comments they are still hurtful.
I found doing things in honor of my daughter helped a lot. I also cried a lot. I want you to know that even though this has been a nightmare and you have a long road ahead of you with learning to live after to loss of a child but it does get easier. If you need to talk about it I am here to listen.
I am really sorry for your loss. I have had two miscarriages, several years ago. I am still dealing with processing them, which is why I have joined this group. My experience with the second was also very terrible. I still have flashbacks and my mind goes over it at night. Here are some things that help me:
*Talking to other ladies who have been through miscarriage, my mom included
*Talking to the babies I lost and telling them how much I love them and wanted them
*Naming the babies
*Praying for the babies (doesn't even have to be religious, you can send loving wishes to them)
*Recently, I got a little keepsake to remember them by, because I didn't have anything tangible except for one ultrasound picture
Much love to you.