Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
My doctor just called with the test results that they did on the tissue after my D&C. He said all the chromosomes were completely normal. He acted like it was a good thing but I'm feeling really sad about it. All kinds of things are going through my head. If the test results were normal how did this perfectly normal little baby die? Was it something I did? Should I have gotten a second person to look for the heartbeat on the ultrasound? I felt better when I thought there was a problem with the baby, I felt that he or she was better in God's hands. But now, now that I know it was a normal child it's so much harder. No matter how many doctors tell me it's not my fault now I feel that somehow it was. Even if it wasn't something that I personally did for some reason my body would not let this child grow inside me.
lvnikita
It is not your fault!! Unless you were taking heavy drugs or drinking a ton of alcohol... there was nothing you could have done. With all of my losses, the reports all came back that the babies were absolutely healthy/normal. It was hard getting that news but it does mean that your next pregnancy should be ok!
deleted_user
As my husband said to me there are unfortunately no answers to your questions. Just because the chromosomes were normal doesn't mean the baby was completely normal. It was God's choice in the end. Doesn't make it any easier or less painful. If all you tests were normal then like Ivnikita said next time should be okay. Take heart and comfort that there will be a next time and the odds of a second miscarriage in a healthly women are very small. XO
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