Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I have a question to ask. I talked to my mom today about the blood results. I told her everything came back normal and my miscarriage was probably due to a weak cervix. My mom keeps asking me if I was straining when I had my bowel movement. I told her how else am I suppose to get it out. She said that I wasn't suppose to strain while pregnant. I got frustrated with her because she keeps saying that. Now I'm wondering if that was why I lost my baby. Is it possible for that to happen? The day of the miscarriage, I felt like I had a BM and I went and then there was blood and I lost my fluids. I'm confused and worried.
Is constipation ever serious?
Not usually, though occasionally it can be a symptom of another problem. If you have severe constipation that's accompanied by abdominal pain, alternates with diarrhea, or you pass mucus or blood, call your doctor or midwife immediately.
Also, straining during a bowel movement or passing a hard stool can lead to or worsen hemorrhoids, swollen veins in the rectal area. Hemorrhoids can be extremely uncomfortable, though they rarely cause serious problems and in most cases they go away fairly soon after your baby is born. However, if the pain is severe or you have rectal bleeding, call your caregiver so you can be evaluated.
I hope this makes you feel better. There is nothing you can do to cause a miscarriage unless you are taking illegal drugs or drinking too much. Try not to worry about it! I am sorry for all you have been through.
18 wks is around the time when cervix's become weakened by the weight of the uterus. Tell your mom you will ask the Dr or that you asked the Dr so maybe she will stop making you feel responsible. I'm so sorry to hear about your precious baby boy
Old wives tales, the lot of them!
I thanked them all for their "good advice" and concern, but in truth none of them had any advice to give.
There is no way that any of the things I was warned of in a loving way by these women could actually cause a miscarriage.
Everyone around us is in a helpless state, there is nothing that they can do to help matters, so they try to think of advice to give because they care.