First of all, taking it from one who understands completely, I'm sorry for the loss of your baby and all the hopes and dreams you had with this child. You should definitely tell your husband that it is bothering you b/c he needs to know how hard this is for you. Having said that, hon, I really think there is a reason why we are all here..we have all lost our precious babies but we're still here and we still have to move on b/c the world never stops for us or our grief. What I am slowly coming to accept is that there will always be children around, women you know getting pregnant and having babies with no issues but also, one day, you will be one of those pregnant women and time after that, yours will be a child running around. Go on your trip and spend quality time with your husband-and thank God for all the blessings you do still have. I am going on 2 trips which i had never planned on making b/c i would have been pregnant but am looking forward to it and maybe even having fun? Not a day goes by where I don't think of the baby i would have had in 2 months but none of us can change the past...good luck and try to enjoy your trip..

I agree with MKG, talk to your hubby. Let him know that it bothers you. Having lost two babies in 2009, not wanting my "should have been" due dates to come, birthdays, holidays etc etc they all came; with sadness, I thought about my babies that should have been there and about how my daughter should be a big sister etc etc. The trip might do you some good. And who knows (if you are TTC now or by then) it MAY NOT be just the two of you ;-)
Good luck!

First of all, I so sorry for your loss. I don't think it's a silly question. I would talk to your DH. Maybe you can compromise on your destination, somewhere that isn't so family oriented. Maybe something special, just for the two of you. Who knows, if you're ttc by then......a special vacation away might just do the trick! :) One thing I've learned through all of this is how amazing my husband truly is (not that he wasn't awesome before.....but this has made us so much closer). I'd encourage you to take a vacation, but somewhere that you'll feel comfortable going.

I have had the exact same situation. My DH wanted to do that but it seemed like such a celebration thing I didn't want to. We have a daughter now so it's been a while but I know your feelings. I hope you and your hubby can reach a compromise that will help you feel better. Good luck.

I read your post and I want to share my story as well. I actually lost my baby while I was ON a vacation with my husband, my brother and my sister in law and their kids. We were up in Big bear (the mountains about two hours from our house so its somewhere we go a lot). It was the end of January so there was a ton of snow and I was looking forward to a good day with my niece and nephew in the snow. I just saw the heartbeat two days before so I knew the baby was ok and I was feeling great. Then all of a sudden while I was playing darts with my nephew in the cabin we rented I got horrible cramps and sat down and started gushing.
Now, 8 weeks later, my husband wants to go back up to Big Bear because we have always loved that place and I made the mistake of telling him I wanted to make new memories up there and I dont want it to be a place with such horrible memories attached to it, I must have been having one of my "good days" when I told him that. Now he thinks I want to go and I realllllly dont want to but I dont want to talk about it with him for some reason.
So I can sympathize with you. I remember our conversation THAT DAY about how it would be our last trip till the baby is born and then next winter we would go again and bring the baby with us.
The thing about miscarriage is it is SO inconvinient and sad all at the same time. Its such a taboo topic that should not be taboo at all. We need to be able to talk about it and keep the memory of our babies alive.
I think you need to talk to hubby about how you feel but still go on vacation with him. Quality time is very healing. Maybe you can spend some of your trip talking about the baby and maybe eventually you will have fun. You cant avoid vacations forever. Maybe dont go to the same place you were planning on. Go on a romantic couples trip. I hope we were able to help. Good luck and let us know what you decide on :)

When I was reading your entry it was like I had written it myself. I found out that I was pregnant at the start of December 2009, we then left for our vacation the day after Christmas Day. We go to the same place every year, so we know a lot of people there, who pretty much all knew that I was pregnant. We have spent a lot of fantastic times here, but now just can't go back. Eventually I know I will have to, but it know it is going to be one of the hardest things I will have to do. Talk to your husband for sure, my husband didn't understand either, until I told him. Now he knows he said when you are ready we will go back. Stay strong.