I am sorry you don't seem to have your mother's suppport. I was also told the same day I got out of the hospital from having my miscarriage to "get over it". It isn't that simple like people think it is. It takes time and the grieving process takes awhile. I am not sure how long it has been since you miscarried but it does sound like it was recent. I am sorry hunny. Just keep your daughter close and try to cope in the best way possible. My heart goes out to you.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss! In some ways, having your angel cremated must have sounded like a relief or like you would finally be able to move on. But it's normal to feel empty afterwards. When I lost my baby, I didn't get any ashes (he or she wasn't nearly big enough). I did however write a letter to my baby and burn it and spread my symbolic ashes around in some of my favorite places (the place Matt and I first met, in the ocean because water makes me feel free, and around the tree I planted on the due date). I thought that doing this would make me feel better, and in some ways it did. In other ways, I just felt further and further away from my baby. It's completely normal to feel this way. Also, I'm not positive, but I can imagine you're feeling scared and worried about moving on now. This is normmal too. I'm sorry your mom was so unsupportive. What she said was completely unhelpful. Who is anybody to say how long it is going to take you to move on from this? And how someone can expect you to "get over" loosing your baby is beyond me. My dog died 2 years ago and I still get sad to think about that. While the sadness doesn't consume me anymore, that doesn't take away the fact that I loved my dog and I miss her a lot. And that was a DOG...not anywhere close to the feelings I feel for my BABY who was inside me and literally a part of me. Sometimes people don't understand and they just won't. Good for you for not snapping. I probably would have...I can't tell you the number of fights my mother and I have gotten into since I lost my baby.

Let time do it's magic and give you space. Surround yourself with people who you can talk to and who will give you the love and support you need right now. If you need anyone to cry at or vent to, I'd be glad to listen. Things will get better- not all the way better, but slowly will improve with time. Take care, and my thoughts and prayers go out to you, your family, and your angel.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know it is really hard when people don't understand what you are going through, and they say things that are really hurtful. I don't think that this is something that any of us can ever "get over", they were are babies and I think it is important for us to remember them. Allow yourself the time to grieve, because it is important to do that. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.