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Rough day

Amy522
Amy522
I am having a really rough day. Just a little history--my DH had a vas reversal in October and we got pregnant the first cycle--truly a miracle. I was so desperate to do everything I could to get prego, I never thought I would have a mc. I was only 5 weeks and I know thats very early. But it hurts.

Now DH and I have decided to not prevent but just live for awhile without TTC. But I am so scared to go through this again. I am so sad. I got a letter today from DH's reversal doc congratulating us on our pregnancy (we are required to let him know about a pos test) My heart is breaking again and I thought I was doing so well. I feel like its not fair to start again. I feel like everyone just wants me to move on from this like it didn't happen. I feel guilty thinking of a new pregnancy. What about my little one who never got a chance?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry for your loss. After our second loss at 23wks I didn't think I could go through another pregnancy. My husband wanted to leave things up to God as it was hard on us to get pregnant anyway. Low and behold we got pregnant 2months after our devastating loss. were currently 21wks now and doing well. Its been one wild roller coaster, but were surviving. There are days that it still hurts but I know that this road were on is a blessed one anyway we turn. Good luck and God bless :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry sweetie. Recently, as I'm waiting out my 2 weeks here, everyone around me insists on being truthful about how they think I should have moved on and acted as if I never got pregnant and to wait several years. This is devastating because I feel as though all my support is gone. I guess I just wanted to tell you I can relate. Also, I believe it is your right and privilege to remember the ones you conceived. I don't like to live without a big plan on where my life will go each day or month, but I try to let things "happen" as best I can. That's all we can ask to do. You are doing great, I really believe that.
Alina
lvnikita
lvnikita
I am sorry for you loss. It doesn't matter how far a long you were when you lost your little one. You had hopes and dreams for him... Try not to feel guilty about trying again but make sure you are ready. Moving on and getting over it are things that really don't happen. You will always feel the pain of the loss. But when you get ready to try again, just remember, the little one you lost would want you to be happy. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry for your loss. I lost my baby just over a week ago, I was two days away from being 11 weeks. We tried for a year and I also feel guilty for wanting another becuase I wanted the baby God had already given me. I had signed up for weekly pregnancy updates from different sites and haven't had the strength to remove them because I feel as though it erases my little one... I know nothing will erase my baby, but our emotions aren't always rational. I saw an update today for my 12 weeks.... I understand how you feel about your letter.

I find solace in knowing that my baby will always be held in my heart and there is hope for a baby that will be held in my arms in God's time.
I hope you find some peace and relief from your pain and grief... time will heal you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Amy,

I know exactly what you are feeling, just when I think I have it together and feeling OK, the flood of emotion starts to come back and I am feeling sad, angry and guilty at the same time...it is exhausting. I take comfort in knowing that there are other women that are having the same feelings that I do, and to know that I am not alone even though I feel that way. Coming here makes me feel sane when everything else seems so insane and the people close to mean don't understand. I will be praying for you because I know the sadness you are feeling needs prayer to get you through.
with love,
MAMALYNN