Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Hi all.
I just finished a 2-month miscarriage (lasted much longer than my pregnancy, which terminated at 6 weeks). I took misoprostol at home to induce, which was excruciating as many of you know, but then bled/spotted for almost 2 months. Finally got my hcg to zero and stopped spotting, only to land in the ER with blinding pain that they couldn't diagnose or give me anything for (other than strong ibuprofin). This kept on for 4 days, when I finally passed a large (2-inch) piece of tissue and all bleeding stopped. I was so relieved I started singing and downed a few glasses of champagne even though it was 11am. That was two weeks ago, and I'm positive the miscarriage is fully over.
My sister, who I'm very close to, has two beautiful children from two uncomplicated pregnancies/births. She told me at the beginning of this week that she's 9 1/2 weeks pregnant...a surprise and totally unplanned. She was gentle and kind, and made sure to wait until I was through with my physical distress before she told me, but I just. don't. know. what. to. do. She got pregnant as I was miscarrying.
I don't have any children and just want ONE little baby, and we've been trying for 2 years, and this miscarriage was so godawful, and my other best friend is due in September (I think she tried for one, maybe two cycles), and I'm feeling sorry for myself and I'm thinking terrible things about my sister who has DONE NOTHING WRONG, but it feels as if she picked up a knife and stabbed me in the back, knowingly, while I was already broken and trembling on the ground. I don't know what to do, and I know that nothing will help.
I sort of just want to be here to support other women who have gone through anything like this, and be supported by other women who have gone through anything like this, and share our grief and pain and hurt and rage. I'm so, so sorry if you've had a miscarriage. I'm so, so sorry that you have to see friends, family, sisters, enemies, strangers with bellies and babies. It's cruel and sinister, and my heart breaks for all of you.
xo