I'm dealing with the same thing. I lost my baby at 9 weeks and ended up having an incomplete miscarriage which required a D and C. I was handling it fine but being around children and seeing pregnant women makes me feel like I've failed. Like I let my baby down. And I don't know what I need but it definitely hurts and I hope it eases up. I'm sorry for your lost, I absolutely know the pain you're going through.

hi, i lost my baby last Thursday. It was also my first pregnancy after trying for more than a year. It has been and is very difficult...actually, on Friday I will see a therapist because i cannot function at work anymore. I have been told by several women in my life that it will get better. I send you a big hug.

Last month my baby would have been born... the pain for me has lightened, but I do not believe it will ever go away. We created a life and felt it... slip away from us. Without there being anything we can do about it. I’m still on my fight to conceive again, and after every negative test a piece of me gets chipped away. However... i know that if I don’t focus on all of the things I DO have control over, and maintain “me” as much as I can, my worries will swallow me whole. We can do this.... best of luck to all you ladies. I have felt your pain, and live with it every day. <3

I'm so sorry. We went to our first ultrasound on Thursday to find out there was no heartbeat. Our baby was 9 weeks +1. I had a d&c yesterday. Now I'm bleeding and cramping bad. Two of three of my best friends are pregnant. and I'm left to wonder why me? Why anyone but why me? I've been through so much hurt in this life, why more? Others have it so easy and I have had it. So i completely know how you feel. I haven't had to go to work yet. and I dont know when I should. I'm devastated. Again, I'm sorry you all are too. Life doesn't make sense.

I wish I could say that it goes away. Are there days I don't think about it as much, yes. Are there days (like today) that I can think of nothing else. I've had 2 miscarriages in a row. December 5 and July 3. My marriage is suffering, my heart hurts all the time and my hope is dwindling.
I have an amazing therapist who is helping me to reach out for help and support (which I'm not good at) so that is helping me feel stronger. Reach out. Cry. Talk about it. That's all the advice I can give, and hopefully listen to myself about. This will forever change you, but we can be strong still.

My husband and I lost our son at 22 weeks in February. It was our first pregnancy. It was the hardest thing ever, we cried for months. It definitely gets “easier” and you don’t cry as much. For me, I couldn’t leave my husbands side for the first week after it happened or else I’d just breakdown..just driving to work and being alone made me breakdown, that went on for a few months. Then, my milk started coming in, all things that would have happened if my baby was alive. That was brutal. It was like a punch in the face.. just a terrible reminder that I have no baby but have to go through the normal aftermath stuff. I decided to honor my son by raising money for our local children’s hospital and participating in a 5k walk. It made me feel good that I was able to help in his honor. Now, I’m struggling with getting the weight off. I’m definitely still weak, emotionally and still grieving so it’s tough getting my mind focused on weight loss.

So sorry for your loss, dear. There is no word to tell you how bad I feel about this situation. I know the feeling of going through this. I had m/c last week. I’m glad my dh was there with me. Started bleeding on mon. It was really painful (emotionally). That would have been our 1st baby. We’ve been trying for 7 yrs. Finally got pregnant (through IVF) but I lost it. It hurts me so much. But I’m not losing any hope. Hopefully next time it will be a successful one. I want to ttc right away… But I don’t know when my af will come. I know you need also to grieve. Just to let you know we're thinking of you. Take care & good luck to you.

Sorry for your loss. One thing that helps me to go through mc is knowing that I did nothing wrong. It was something I could not stop. It was not something I could control. And even if I could change everything it still was going to happen. I had a mc at 7 weeks. I was a mess... I felt all alone. I didn't want to talk to people. I was so sick of hearing people say "Women have miscarriages all the time. You'll be fine." Just say you're sorry or say nothing at all.

I am sorry for your loss. Yesterday I came across an awesome blog for cat owners, and they listed great books for those who lost friends, family members, or pets. Here is the post: https://meowpassion.com/reviews/books-cat-owners-lovers-kids/