Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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lorabar 07/07/2008

I had a miscarriage last Monday @ 12 weeks. I went in for an emergency ultrasound and found my baby measured only 9.5 weeks, I just had an ultrasound @ 8 weeks and everything looked great, strong 170 heartbeat. I do have one child who is 1 1/2 and I am so greatful to have him. I love him more than anything in this entire world, but I am just having such a hard time with losing this baby. I almost knew from the begining that something was wrong, something just didn't feel right. I chose to ignore this feeling after seeing the baby and hearing the heartbeat, I started to get excited. But I still didn't bond with this pregnancy, I just thought it was going to be different because it was the second pregnancy. One of the challenges with my miscarriage was that I had a D&C scheduled for 11am the following morning. My body went into labor in the middle of the night, I had the miscarriage here at home and it was such a horrible expierence. I just need to talk to other women who have been through this. I am getting so many opinions from those people at work and those so called friends on how they would have handled the same situation and I just want to scream. I am dying inside and the last thing I need to hear are the opinions of people who have never been through what we have... my heart is broken. My husband and I do want to try for our second baby soon, but I need help healing inside, I was searching online and that is when I found this website. I would love to hear from any and all on how you are doing and if you had any advice on how to get through these next few weeks... few months...

deleted_user 07/07/2008

I am so sorry for your loss, and the only advice that I can really give you is to live one day at a time, I know that doesnt seem to make much sense but if you can I would wait at least 8-10 wks before trying again, and believe me when I say you will still grieve for the child you lost but you will have happier days again and make it easier for you and your future pregnancy.
I have had 3 m/c and 1 baby born at 35.2 wks that passed away in january so I do understand your pain.
I have also written a journal, letters, and released balloons in his memory so i hope that this info helps some..If you need to "talk" to someone that has been in your shoes feel free to message me anytime..My thoughts and prayers are with you!@

deleted_user 07/07/2008

I am so sorry for your loss. You sound like you are also handling it very well considering. I agree to give yourself some time until it feels right to try again. You might even want to check with your dr to see when you can try again, after my m/c's it's been ok b/c all of mine have been so early, but at 12 weeks, I'm not sure how much time the body needs to heal.
This website is a godsend when it comes to healing. The people on this site will be there for you and lift you up when you fall. They're wonderful.
In the meanwhile, time will help you heal emotionally, but the loss of your baby will always be with you. It's just something you learn to live with, rather than it actually going away.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.

realitychick 07/08/2008

Oh hun I am so sorry for you loss. We all do know what you are going through I had my m/c on 7/3/08 I was 12 weeks along but the baby had passed away at 8 weeks. I do know what you are saying I had the same feeling about this pregnancy that I did not have with my last two. From the get go I could tell that I would never have this baby I knew all along that this child would not make it. But I kept hoping that I was wrong. But I was not I guess we all know our bodies and we know when something is not right. I had a D and C on 7/3/08 and I am still just numb to what has happened. But I am hoping that it will all get better, I am trying to live on day at a time and just trying to get back on with my life. Good luck and my prayers are with you. Hang in there.

deleted_user 07/08/2008

I'm very sorry. I miscarried around 17 weeks. I went into full labor at home and made it to the hopsital with only minutes to spare before I delivered my son. Just deal with it one day at a time. You'll have some super bad days and some good days where your mind will drift other places. My miscarriage was on March 29th and I'm coping so much better now. I'm still sad about it. That will never go away. But it will become so much easier. I know right now you're probably confused, shocked, sad, mad and many more terrible emotions. This website was GREAT for me and my coping. God bless. If you need to talk or vent email me laurieholland07@aol.com. ?

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