Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
My best freind stopped talking to me the day I told her I was pregnant. She absolutley hates my boyfriend because she doesnt think I should care about anyone but her, so when I told her I was pregnant she bascially called me a slut and said she hoped my pregnancy was a miserable experience for me. I was really hurt but I still had hope that we would work out our problems and be freinds again one day. So two days ago I decided to reach out to her and tell her about the miscarriage. The response I got shook me to the core. She told me that it was probably my fault "IF" I had a miscarriage and that I deserve to be miserable and she wants nothing to do with me. I say "IF", because she then went on to say that she doesnt know if she even believe's that I was pregnant and that I'm making it up so she'll feel sorry for me. I wanted puke when I heared this. I keep thinking what kind of sick person would say those words to another human being. Losing my baby broke my heart, but to find out a someone I considered my best freind for 12 years could say those mean things to me really breaks my spirit.
I can tell you from personal experience, that I had a friend whom I considered to be one of my best, and I put up with a lot from her because I truly cared about her and we had so much fun together when she wasn't in b*tch mode. But over the years, the shabby way she treated me at the slightest provocation (and often with no provocation at all) just became too much. I realized that it was overall a pretty "toxic" friendship. It broke my heart, but I had to phase her out of my life because I knew I deserved better.
I can't really tell you how to handle it. What I experienced wasn't nearly as extreme as what you are going through, and I can only imagine the hurt you must be feeling. I hope you know and believe in your heart that you DO deserve so much better than that. If you need to vent about it, we are here! I will keep you in my thoughts and be wishing the best for you in whatever you decide to do about the friendship.
When I got pregnant and told a friend of mine, she told me that I should consider an abortion and that I could never raised a child. That children should be planned and I shouldn't be selfish and keep it. Now, I am 28 yrs old, have a great job, but did just recently go through a divorce. I had never been pregnant. I do not smoke, drink, or do drugs. I came to find out that when she got pregnant, she had an abortion and never had children again. I was devastated and cried and cried. At first I did not even respond. Remember too, this was before I had my ectopic pregnancy and lost my baby.
Then I told her how I felt. I told her how hurt I was, and I also told her that she was not my friend. If she was, trust me sam23 that she would had changed her words and found more appropriate ones for a pregnant woman.
Then I end up in surgery and while I am lying in my hospital room, the phone rings. She began to tell me how she wishes I had never met this guy(who by the way was the only one to stand by my side besides my parent and best friend). I simply said...I dont need this right now!
I will not pick up the phone for her. Instead, I pray hard for her. In my opinion, she is miserable. Your friend, I am sorry to say, is not your friend. And unless she come crying with an extravagent apology, I would not let anyone who can hurt you right now in. You need to take care of you and be around positive people. Her letting out steam in a situation like this is completely inappropriate! And, lastly as if I haven't said enough, It is nobodies business who you are with. Only yours and you are the only one who needs to like your man!
I wish you so much luck, and send you love!