Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Hi all! On September 20th I went in to have my first ultrasound. I was 10 weeks and 4 days and super excited to see our baby! The ultrasound tech was super quiet during our appointment and didn’t show us the screen. I knew something was wrong but had to wait until Monday (10/2) to have it confirmed. The ultrasound showed that the embryo was only measuring 8 weeks 2 days and there wasn’t a heartbeat. I then had another ultrasound the next day to confirm I had a missed miscarriage. I scheduled a D&C for the next day. It will be one week tomorrow since the D&C procedure and I find myself getting more and more depressed each day. I want so bad to be pregnant and start a family. This is killing me knowing that I would have been 12 weeks today. There is also a part of me that blames myself. When I first found out I was pregnant I wasn’t super excited, I was scared and didn’t feel that I was ready. Though my husband and I planned on getting pregnant I expected it to take a lot longer than it did. As the weeks went on I was warming up to the idea and was looking forward to being a mom by the time we realized we had lost the baby. I worry that I caused the miscarriage. I ran a 5k around 8 weeks and part of me can’t help but wonder if that’s what caused it. I’m just struggling dealing with the overall heartbreak that comes with a miscarriage and the guilt that this could be my fault. I’m trying to stay positive and to distract myself but every night I end up crying myself to sleep and can feel myself pushing my husband away. Any insight, stories, experiences would be appreciated.
I just joined this group because I had a missed miscarriage last week. I went in for an early ultrasound at 8.5 weeks only to find out that there was no heartbeat, that I had miscarried a few days earlier. I had a D&C yesterday. To make matters worse, the ultrasound was 2 days before my husband's birthday. Now his 33rd birthday will forever be tainted with the loss of our first pregnancy. The last few days have been some of the worst of my life. I can't help but think that I did something to cause the miscarriage, and that if we get pregnant again I will miscarry again, but my OB told me that you can't blame yourself because first-trimester miscarriage is so common (though you wouldn't know it because no one talks about it!). I don't really have any words of wisdom for you, but I know exactly what you're going through and it totally sucks. It's so hard to stay optimistic, and every day is filled with sadness and anger and resentment. The only positive to come out of all of this is the knowledge that we are able to get pregnant. It took us 8 months to conceive, but we did it and so did you. So chances are good that we will both get pregnant again. I wish you only the best as you (hopefully) try again.