I don't consider myself a mother and if people ask me if I have children, I say no. I just don't want to tell them about my miscarriages and how my hubby and I are ttc now.

I do feel like my chance to be a mommy was taken from me twice and while I mourn our loss and am devastated we lost two, I don't feel like I ever reached that point of calling myself a mom.

Well, I guess it depends... My husband and ex (with whom I had my first two miscarriages) give me at least a card on Mother's Day since it's always so depressing for me, I guess.

It's a little different, 'cause now I'm a step-mom and the children have called me mom a few times... It's such a weird feeling, but it's a good one...

So I guess the answer to that question is yes and no. I feel like I was robbed, kind of like smh said... In the past I felt lucky enough to get to have 2 step-children that I could devote my love to... Except now we're thousands of miles away from them and I just had my third miscarriage last month :( I don't get to talk to them or anything because BM doesn't like me at all.

Anyway, I got off on a tangent... I consider myself a mommy of three angels, but I wouldn't say that to anyone besides DH or ex.

you still had a baby or babies... no matter how long they lived... so yes I would say your still considered a mother... but everyones different...

I consider myself an angel mommy.I don't tell people about my I am because it is so hard to talk about and unless you have gone through this people don't undertsand. But here is this poem I found that I love.

What Makes a Mother

I thought of you and closed my eyes.
And prayed to God today.
I asked what makes a mother and
I know I heard him say,

A mother has a baby.
This we know is true.
But God, can you be a mother
when your baby's not with you?

Yes, you can, He replied
with confidence in His voice.
I give many women babies.
When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime
and others for a day.
And some I send to feel your womb
but there's no need to stay.

I just don't understand this. God,
I want my baby here.
He took a breath and cleared His throat
and then I saw a tear.

I wish I could show you
what your child is doing today.
If you could see your child smile
with other children and say,

"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of life and love and fear.
My Mommy loved me, Oh so much,
I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mom
who had so much love for me,
I learned my lesson very quickly.
My Mommy set me free.

I miss my Mommy, Oh so much,
but I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep,
on her pillow's where I lay.

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek
and whisper in her ear,
'Mommy don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I'm here.'"

So you see, my dear sweet one,
your children are okay.
Your babies are here in MY home
and this is where they'll stay.

They'll wait for you with ME
until your lesson is through.
And on the day that you come home,
they'll be at the gates for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother
It's the feeling in your heart.
It's the love you had so much of,
right from the very start.

Though some on earth may not realize you are a Mother,
until their time is done.
They'll be up here with ME one day,
and know you're the best one.
~Jennifer Wasik~

I concider myself a mommy...even if I didn't get to keep my baby. But I completely get where you are coming from. People ask if I have kids and I just don't feel like explaining the story. I guess I feel like its not their place to know.

Yes. Absolutely.

Just because we never met our babies, does not mean we are not mothers.

xoxo

YES!! We are mothers!!!

Wether you want to tell people about your angels is your choice, but that does not stop you being their mummy.

I haven't actually told most people because it's too hard for me to talk about, i've just added pictures of my new tattoo and poems and left it to them.

I am a mum, i lost my child, but just because i can't hold him doesn't mean he was never there. I don't care what anyone says, you will ALWAYS be a Mum!! xxxxx

Thank you so much all of you. You have all helped me...And like some of you I tell certain people about my babies but sometimes I just can not gain the strength to talk about them....Ash 17 that poem was beautiful thank you so much for putting that on here. I write poems also I have wrote a few different ones for my babies probbaly post them on here soon. Thanks again all of you, you have all helped and i'm just glad to know people care. You all are wonderful :)