Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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jtolman6 08/03/2018

Hi everyone :)

I had my first miscarriage four months ago and I still think about it every day. Literally. I don't feel as upset or angry as I used to that it has happened, but it still plagues my thoughts daily and I feel fed up that it won't shift.

My husband is amazing but I don't want to drag him down always talking about it. My Mum is my absolute best friend and usually she is the most supportive person in the world but the miscarriage hit her hard too so she always mentions how it is making her feeling which just makes me feel worse. My closest friends simply don't understand. They talk about people they know getting pregnant and having babies, completely oblivious to the fact of how it might make me feel like my heart is breaking all over again. If I ever mention how I'm feeling, they say all of the typical cliches and it just doesn't help.

I feel like I have grieved for my loss, accepted it has happened and my husband and I are ready to move on and try to conceive again, I just feel completely lost. I don't know how to stop the feeling of missing being pregnant, wanting to be pregnant again, seeing others pregnant and with new borns bringing me down every day. It's not me!

Sorry for the almost rant. I'm really hoping to find solace here as I don't seem to find it anywhere else x

futuremom 08/07/2018

I totally understand how you feel. I miscarried 2 months ago and it feels like a hurt that will never go away. How did you know when you felt ready to try again? I’m still dealing with that.

fffFFF 08/08/2018

I am sorry to know yr story. However, any woman might experience mcs, unfortunately. Follow your dreams and don't give up. I know someone who experienced recurrent pregnancy loss, but did not give up. She did additional tests and finally got pregnant via PGS NGS.

picklebutt38 08/08/2018

I’m so sorry for your loss. I miscarried in January, found out during my 12 week check in - and was devastated. Honestly, I still am. My point of view on whether or not I was ready to try again came pretty quickly to me.... the way I see it, I will always, ALWAYS miss my baby that never was. I allowed myself to get excited and prepared to tell people as I was at the end of my first trimester, so the shock of it just really doesn’t go away. Of course, as many will tell us, miscarriages are “common”. 1 in 4 women experience them. That doesn’t make me feel any better, or feel any less pain for mine. But I have to believe that positivity and faith in the process will help me move on and heal. I’m not sure if you are a spiritual person or not, but finding a “universal” understanding really helped me in my early weeks after. Long story short... no amount of time was going to make me feel better. Physically/scientifically, I felt the sooner I tried the more likely I could conceive again. My dr even recommended it. You’ll know when you are ready. Friends and family, even those who have miscarried before, all mean well. I think our pain is just to fresh to handle all that “stay positive, everything happens for a reason, in His timing” shit. ( excuse my French ;) ). Be sad, allow yourself to feel what you feel.

noora1 09/24/2018

Hi there! I'm in the same boat. My DH & I been trying for 7 yrs. I know that it’s really hard to conceive. When you get pregnant you get so excited… But happiness lasts not so long… I lost it too. It’s sooo heartbreaking. I can’t take the pain... I'm just on the recovery state right now. I don’t have any advice to give to you ladies because I need one too... I'm hoping that I'll get pregnant right away… I dream about this. Also I know that all of you would want this too… It’s a good feeling to know that you are pregnant. Hopefully all of you will have a successful pregnancy next time.

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