Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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faith17 11/27/2017

First of I was so happy to find this support group. It definitely helps reading the stories. Always said I wish I had some friends who understood. I’m 32 and had a miscarriage 4 years ago. It was hard. We were not really trying just not preventing. I was very excited. My progesterone level was low from the start but I had no idea that meant miscarriage I just started taking vaginal progesterone and thought it would all be good. It wasn’t I never heard the heartbeat and miscarried on my own. It was intense pain while I passed the contents left in be but after that I was fine I didn’t need a d&c. I was sad but I wasn’t so dead set on having kids at that time in my life I had friends w out children. Now I have no one left with out children and the infertility has made me angry and bitter. I have good friends who I have not seen there children. It’s so wrong of me. I just can’t deal with it. And the stress it adds on a relationship is a lot. I have been seeing a infertility doctor for 2yrs now w undiagnosed infertility. I have done it all fertility meds, surgeries all the stuff to check us both with no answers. We finally decided to do iui. It was scheduled for October I was so excited. But my period never came so we never ordered the meds which are very pricey and can’t be returned. Little did I know I was pregnant. It was a miracle. We didn’t have to fork out the money. I couldn’t believe it. Everything I have ever wanted was finally happening. I just miscarried one week ago. I took the misoprostol . It was awful. Never again will I take that. I vomited for 12 hrs straight w severe pain. My advice allow your body to pass on it’s own or d&c. I still feel awful. It’s been 6 days. Infertility and miscarriage’s is no joke. No one understands unless they have been through it. I wasn’t able to collect the contents for genetic testing. I’m just heartbroken. I go back 2m for US to be sure everything has passed. And all I can think is now what. It took me 4 yrs to get pregnant again and it’s all over again. Devastating. Any advise or similar situations would love to hear about.

artist218 11/29/2017

I'm so sorry for your losses. It is so devastating to feel the world move on with their families, while we are standing still in our grief. You are braver and stronger for it. Please know that. We carry pain and appreciation. We are gentler humans for having carried our babies and because we have to live as if nothing happened. I sometimes wonder if having a healthy baby will fix me. Other times, I think not. I may always feel that something is missing, because it is. The experience of growing a baby inside of you transforms you forever whether you get to hold your child in the end or not. I have had two losses, both at 12 weeks. I write and read a lot on the topic as it helps me cope. I am 31 years old. I hadn't planned either pregnancy but I always wanted to be a mother. I am missing an ovary and have a large cyst in the other. My clock is ticking. Worse part is my relationship is over. The losses drove us a part. It's like I'm starting over, from nothing, without much hope. When you said, "everything I ever wanted was happening" it really hit me hard. I can relate to this. What do we do once we've had everything we wanted and lost it, beyond our control? How do we move forward from that? The bond I have formed with the memories left unmade is stronger than anything now... I am hoping that I can feel excitement one day. This forum is wonderful for feeling that those of us who have experienced this are united by a thread that is invisible but stronger than any rope. Please take comfort in knowing that you and your losses are on my mind. Keep in touch if you'd like to speak regularly. xxx

faith17 11/29/2017

I’m
Sorry for your losses as well. I get the emptiness. We must deal with it our own way.

I feel the same way as if my life would be complete w a child. And when pregnant you get that glimmer of hope. And it’s gone in an instant.

As far as relationship and time ticking. I’m with you girl! As I’m 32. And I feel as though my relationship is falling apart b/c I can’t deal with not having a child. I have had my freedom, my “me” time, I know longer find joy in all those things. Such a void in life. Sometimes I think I continue my relationship b/c I can’t imagine starting over. Like I don’t have that much time to waste.

And to see him interact with other children tugs on my heart. All we can do is sit on the curb and cry with each other.

I’m always here if you need to vent or talk. Xoxo much love

noora 03/01/2018

I'm so sorry about your miscarriages. I had multiple MCs. It was really hard to go through such pain. I know it's hard for you. I had 3 miscarriages. I still can't recover from unbearable pain inside. I was also very scared to get pregnant again. I had a very deep depression and problems with mental health. My dh and I decided to turn to surrogacy. Actually that was not only our decision but also doctors advise and my health' indicators. Someone may say we "gave up" too fast. But we decided it will be better for me, for us and for our family. I wish you all the best with your ttc process!

fffFFF 03/01/2018

I am so sorry you are facing so many challenges. I would advise to consider IVF or IVF PGS NGS in Europe. A few friends of mine fell pregnant on the first cycle in Poland and Russia xx

reanndenise2013 03/07/2018

I’m going through my miscarriage rn it started on Sunday and I’m also having a hard time. Especially cause I’m barley getting any support from my partner. We argued today because I told him I’m stuck in pain and depression and he’s just moving on in life going to the gym like nothings going on with me. He said he’s dealing with it his own way but he got mad and said he needed space from me... right now isn’t the time for space but he makes me feel even more alone than ever.

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