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Two months ago I had a chemical pregnancy/super early loss.
I freaked out when I thought I would be having a fifth baby, my partner wasnt happy about it either (we had been using birthcontrol to try and prevent this), apparently it wasnt meant to be and even though I didnt intend on getting pregnant or want to be pregnant I suddenly find myself wanting another baby more than anything.
So I spoke to my partner about it and hes not on board at all, he seems to think Im mad for wanting another, Ive tried explaining to him that our current situtation could comfortably support another child and that waiting to long could mean not having another baby at all (My youngest child is 4 and my last three pregnancies resulted in miscarriage)
At this point I dont know if I just give up or keep talking about it. I dont want to force him into this but I dont think he understands how much I want to try for one more baby. He doesnt want to talk about it anymore and he was clearly glad that the last pregnancy didnt stick.
Is the intense desire to have another child because of my recent loss, will this pass or should I keep trying to have this conversation with my partner? I honestly dont know what to do, every day im overwhelmed by these thoughts.
He's entitled to his feelings as well, and should be respected.
You're entitled to yours as well, and your wants and desires should be respected as well.
Respect his feelings and choice.
He doesn't have to want another child if he doesn't want to.
Do not force him, or "tamper", nor "trap" him into another child.
He's telling you that he doesn't want another child. If you have another child, somehow by him, your marriage will be over. . Also, the "newest" child, possibly both children, may be neglected by him.
If you want another child, the only solution is to separate and have one without him.
He doesn't have to agree or want any more children, because you want some more.
Wouldn't you want to be respected if it were vice versa, and you didn't want more children, but he did?