Miscarriage Support Group

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I know it's bad..

YouAreMyForever
YouAreMyForever
So, I'm 14...On my 13th birthday (october), I was told my dad was having an affair, then on Christmas, My sister said she was pregnant. And January, My mom started drinking. March, I had the guy I love most taken from me.... August I think it was, I got in a fight with my dad, my mom left, and my sister was having trouble with the baby. My best friend ditched me for her boyfriend, and the rest of my family can't stand me...So I was alone. I got drunk, and asked this guy to come over because I was lonely and just needed someone to hold me... so he did. For a while. But he was 17, so he pushed for more, and I was drunk...extremly. So I lost my virginity to him that night. October, I felt something in my tummy... I ignored it... November, I gained weight, acted different, and threw up in mornings... December, I bled alot.... I don't even know if I was really pregnant... But it explains alot... No body knows except my 3 friends and my boyfriend... Not even the dad (if he was) I don't know what to do. I'm scared. and I can't talk to anyone else about it..
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can understand how scared you must be.. how awful to be keeping this all to yourself. I'm glad you have some friends you have told. Don't beat yourself up over this.. you made a bad choice during a difficult time in your life... we have ALL done this at some point. You can't change the past, but hopefully you can learn from it.

When you bled a lot in december, was it just a lot of period like blood or was it different? I don't know if you were pregnant or not, but it's possible.

Please feel free to ask me anything or vent if you need to.. i'm here for ya *HUGS*
YouAreMyForever
YouAreMyForever
it was different... idk how to describe it. I was just trying to ignore it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know this is difficult for you and I can't imagine how scary it must be to be alone. I had support and it was still really scary for me. Im so sorry for all the troubles in your life, but whats meant to be will always find its way in the end. Its just another bump in the road that you have to learn to get over and things will get better in the end. if you ever need to talk about anything feel free to message me! Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so sorry that you're going through so much. That's a lot to deal with in a short amount of time. I know you have got to be scared, I would be, too. In fact, I was very scared when I miscarried my baby, and I had people around me who were supportive. *HUGS*
It sounds like you may have been pregnant, but it's hard to tell. Have you been ok physically since then? Are your periods coming normally now?
If you need to talk about anything, I'm here.
YouAreMyForever
YouAreMyForever
Everythng has been pretty much normal since then. I get dizzy really easily, and apparently I'm anemic, but I doubt it has anything to do with it... I havent slept with anyone (willingly) since him, not even my boyfriend, because I've been completely terrified, is that bad? should I just suck it up? :/
deleted_user
deleted_user
Its not uncommon to not want to sleep with somebody. Im still with the daddy of my baby and i don't want to do anything sexual at all. Your young the thought of raising a baby at such a young age is probably terrifying. You do not have to do anything you don't want to do, if you don't want to have sex don't. Only you will know when you are emotionally ready again.
lina2008
lina2008
I am so sorry my dear. I am unsure if you were pregnant it is really hard to tell, did you get any strong cramps when you bled? has your cycle returned to normal?

this are some of the things that may give us some clues... if you are having trouble with your period I would suggest seeing a doctor to check you out. sometimes if there is a little bit left in there it can stop your cycle from coming back or give you an infection so make sure you get proper care if you need it
YouAreMyForever
YouAreMyForever
It doesn't matter anymore...I lost everything, maybe even my kid. I must be living just to be alone... this morning i called my boyfriend....his girlfriend answered....so i grabbed pills. and swallowed them... it didn't work this time....
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know its hard to think that you might have lost your baby but I promise in time it does get better. You yourself need to take time to grieve and get over it all, nobody else can do it but you. As bad as it may get, it will get better. I learned from my mom who also miscarried you never forget them, but eventually you learn to deal with the hurt and pain, and now I'm trying to do the same myself. Your young and hurting yourself is not the answer at all. If you need to talk to somebody tell your parents or a counselor at school they can get you help. Never be afraid to ask and seek the help that you need. Your in my prayers, message me if you need to talk.