Hun I am sorry you are going through this. Just because you started bleeding at just 6 weeks doesn't mean you didn't have a m/c. I lost my baby at 6.5 weeks and never even saw a heartbeat. Any loss to m/c whether chemical pregnancy, ectopic, natural, d/c, etc is huge to us. It all hurts just the same. Don't feel like it was your fault though. You can't control this. All you can do now is try to heal and grieve. After that, you can focus on preparing your body and your lifestyle for another pregnancy. When you are ready, talk to your bf. I am sure he will be more supportive than you think, and if not, then he is a jerk and we are all here for you!!! Good luck with everything. If you ever need to talk, just let me know!

I lost my baby early to. I'v felt the same way and it get's better. I't really just is hormons and a classic stage of grief. In time it will get better, promise.

I am so sorry for your loss.

I do feel that your BF does deserve to know. It will also give you a sence of relief to tell him about it. Then when you need to talk you have someone to talk to.

It takes a lot to get over your loss. Dont let yourself feel like you dont deserve time to get over it. Remember you have lots of friends here on DS to help you through these tough times!!

Hey SparkyC,
First of all, if you believe that life begins from the moment of conception, then you have lost a member of your family. It doesn't matter if you ever saw him or her, you are still grieving. So it's not stupid, and don't try to tell yourself that it is. I just lost my second baby in 6 months. My first was a "chemical" pregnancy too. I remember being kind of angry that people acted like it wasn't that big a deal. To me, it wasn't "chemical" it was a baby! Tae the time you need to grieve, and don't bottle up your feelings. I know that you feel physically awful right now (as I do) and that your hormones are out of control. Take some time for yourself, be close with your boyfriend and honey, you need to tell him. He may be imagining the worst possible things, because it sounds like he knows you are down. Also, this is his loss, too, and he should share in it with you. I don't know what I would do without my hubby, and my wonderful friends both here on DS and at home.

Take care of yourself, and take the time you need. God bless you both.

Sweetie, I don't think it's stupid to feel that way even it if was a chemical PG. You still thought you were PG and then to have to be told that you had a M/C is really hard.

I agree with the rest, I think you should tell you BF so he maybe able to be there for you.

I am so sorry for your loss.

thank you all so much. It's so touching to know I'm not alone. I really don't feel like I can talk about this with many people in my life. I will tell him. I want to do it in person so I will wait till the weekend when we are together.

Thanks for making me feel like my emotions are valid. I know it's mostly hormones. But all the same, it feels like it's the end of the world....

Hugs to all!