Lina I'm sorry for your loss. But it is ok to feel that way. Your heart needs time to heal, woman and men are totally different. He may be dealing with it in a different way or tying not to deal with it at all. But as a woman; as a mother that has lost her child you need your time to grieve and he needs to be at you side and try to be there and understand what you are going through. My friends and family tried to get me out of the house and I went and I did not help. I went to church and looked at all the beautiful faces of little kids and wanted to cry. I didn't give my self the time I needed to grieve, but you should and being angry is a start.

Guys are so clueless. You need time for your heart to heal and for you to grieve in your own way. It sounds like in a way he is just telling you to get over it. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am always here if you need to talk. Hugs!!!

Lina, I am so sorry for your loss. I've been in your shoes. My husband had the same attitude as yours just a week after my first miscarriage. I think guys have a different grieving process or is it that they just can't comprehend our situation because they weren't the ones carrying the baby. You take as much time as you need to emotionally recover. Let him know that it's harder for you to cheer up (maybe you don't want to cheer up just yet - I didn't) and he needs to just let you lean on his shoulder and just breathe. You will recover - and you'll be a stronger woman. It just takes time and we all have different time schedules. I pray you find peace and comfort soon.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you.

My husband acted very much the same way. He did not seem to react and worked even more so I saw him less and felt unsupported. However, I later learned that was his way of coping. With m/c grief, men tend to want to fix things and try to get you to move on and try again etc. They also tend to think of sex as a way to get closer whereas we feel it as a violation and disrespect to the loss. Men sometimes throw themselves into projects or do things around the house that in other ways make them feel like they are contributing to the family or just building.

Someone from here referred me to a website on how men and women cope with miscarriage but I can't find it. See this one:
http://fatherhood.about.com/od/pregnancyandfathers/a/miscarriage.htm

In any case, I was surprised when after my 4th m/c, he cried inconsolably like a baby. I guess it was there and had built up.

You might want to hold off on making any big decisions while you are in this pain, however, but do take the time and space you need to grieve this devastating loss--do whatever you need to do to grieve - no one can tell you what is the "right" way - the right way is whatever you need to do...

Just as an fyi, I personally found it difficult to find support from any friends or family--even my closest freinds. The best support I found came from people on this site who have gone through it...

Hang in there and know that there are people here who will listen...