Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I am reaching out because I feel terribly alone in my losses and ensuing fertility issues. I am hoping to find the support here that I am unable to get from my husband who, while supportive when we initially miscarry, gets annoyed and angry when I talk about fertility and jealously of pregnant women.. the list could go on.
I have had three miscarriages. I went to a reproductive endocrinologist who found really nothing wrong at all, except that I have a decreased ovarian reserve. He said this could, but isn't certainly causing the miscarriages. Anyhow, now in addition to the pain of losing three pregnancies, I feel the time ticking by with my "decreased ovarian reserve" yet when I try to talk to my husband, he just doesn't want to discuss it and says fertility and having a baby is all I talk about. I suppose in his defense it may seem like that. And truly, it's something I have always wanted, dreamed of, and am determined it can and will happen, but I just can't quite see through the dark clouds at this moment. Right now, the specialist has recommended that we either do IUI or try naturally and take progesterone suppositories around day 18 (I have a 25 day cycle).
One other thing, I have MTHFR homozygous type C mutation. I found this out after my second miscarriage, and my OB said this had been the cause of my losses. Wonderful! I could not have been happier to have an answer! Well, for my third pregnancy I took daily injections of Lovenox plus baby aspirin, yet again, at week 6, I had lost the pregnancy.
Any thoughts, words of wisdom, shared struggles, I would so appreciate hearing, as right now I am struggling alone, and it's a terribly lonely place to be.
I have had three miscarriages. I went to a reproductive endocrinologist who found really nothing wrong at all, except that I have a decreased ovarian reserve. He said this could, but isn't certainly causing the miscarriages. Anyhow, now in addition to the pain of losing three pregnancies, I feel the time ticking by with my "decreased ovarian reserve" yet when I try to talk to my husband, he just doesn't want to discuss it and says fertility and having a baby is all I talk about. I suppose in his defense it may seem like that. And truly, it's something I have always wanted, dreamed of, and am determined it can and will happen, but I just can't quite see through the dark clouds at this moment. Right now, the specialist has recommended that we either do IUI or try naturally and take progesterone suppositories around day 18 (I have a 25 day cycle).
One other thing, I have MTHFR homozygous type C mutation. I found this out after my second miscarriage, and my OB said this had been the cause of my losses. Wonderful! I could not have been happier to have an answer! Well, for my third pregnancy I took daily injections of Lovenox plus baby aspirin, yet again, at week 6, I had lost the pregnancy.
Any thoughts, words of wisdom, shared struggles, I would so appreciate hearing, as right now I am struggling alone, and it's a terribly lonely place to be.
I'm sorry to hear about your losses. I have also had 3 losses in a row with no living children. I've had every test under the sun with everything coming back fine. Some of us just have the worst luck and there's just no reason for it. But that means we can keep hoping. I just finished miscarrying my 3rd at 11.5 weeks a few days ago (no heartbeat at 8 weeks, 5 days) but I'm hanging on to the belief that the next one will make it.
My guy also cringes when I talk about it. It's hard to have them react that way when we just need to talk about it, to process, whatever...I know for me each miscarriage was a shocking experience in different ways and it's too much to take in and deal with on your own. Unfortunately, men can't even imagine and most don't even want to try (we probably wouldn't either if we had the luxury). I've gotten so much closer to other women in this f-ed up journey through help. That's something I c be thankful for and I know will remain strong for the rest of my life.
I know it feels strange to look for sympathy from online strangers, but another thing I've learned is to take comfort and support wherever you can find it in your life.
Have hope and feel free to message if you like.