Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Its been 4 months and I still am not able to stop thinking about what could have been. I am still not able to find happiness when someone I know is pregnant. I have been down in a hole I cant seem to get out of and its taking over my life. Anyone else feel this way?
I think I'll still be grieving in a year, even if I do manage to become pregnant and sustain the pregnancy, I will always mourn the loss of both babies and the innocence and joy I felt about those moments. I will never be able to share that elation with those children. (maybe they'll know somehow they were wanted and loved).
On the flip side of this, in the midst of my grief, I am finding moments of comfort, solace and even laughing on occasion. Still, specific things trigger an emotional response and breakdowns, but I find I'm not always on automatic or crying (after nearly 7 weeks). So, when you say the grief is taking over your life it's beginning to sound like grief, which is an ongoing process, is transforming into depression. I don't say this to scare you (and you may already be aware of this, which is why you asked). Depression is a difficult and often debilitating illness/disorder. It's not something to be ashamed of, but it certainly is something that needs to be addressed by a health care provider/professional, especially if it impedes your ability to live life. You should not struggle with this on your own.
And depression doesn't automatically mean you need drugs. Talking to a counselor, therapist or even a pastor (if you're religious) can be helpful to finding coping strategies. If you do need some kind of drug treatment these can be a short term solutions until your strong again.
I believe grief is something we will always live with, but it becomes more manageable. If you find that your grief is taking over your life (diet, sleep, work, school, friendships, family) then you need to speak to your doctor soon. We love you! You deserve to get out of the hole and find some relief. Don't punish yourself for grieving, but don't suffer in silence if the grief is more than you can handle.
Send me a message if you want to talk further. We're all here for you.
Sending you lots of strength and love today!
If there's anything you could see yourself doing, to bring peace... I would write it down. Maybe going to see a friend or family. Family has been my only wound-healer.