Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
So a guy I work with is expecting a baby with his girlfriend. My last pregnancy and her pregnancy were just a day apart... They found out the sex today... A girl... I am crushed emotionally. I felt in my heart that my baby was a girl. I wish so badly that I could have been the one getting the good news on the ultrasound today, and instead I find myself crying again... Just when things seemed to be getting better. I want to be happy for him. He's a great guy and he wants this baby so much. He was so excited to be having a girl. I just can't find it in my heart or mind tonight to be happy for him when I'm in so much pain still......... Maybe that's selfish...... I just can't help it though.
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I seem to wind up in the same boat everytime. I have been preg. 4 times and am currently going thru a misscarrage today. The last was in November of last year. My due date would have been tomorrow. In November when going thru the miscarriage my cousin had a baby girl as it was hard I did find comfort in holding her almost every day. But she understood. It is very frustrating and have no idea what I am doing wrong. Feel very lost
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I think many of us feel this way. While we are happy for them, our own grief and pain is too much. We tried for five years to get pregnant, only to lose this little miracle. Bear with me- I need to explain our story to get to my point. When we first went for testing a few years ago we were told that pregnancy would probably never happen for us. We did not do extensive testing as just as we were starting both my husband and I lost our jobs. I went to a very dark place after being told it probably wasn't in the cards for us, it's something I struggled with even up until I found out we were pregnant. It is a roller coaster, where I could go weeks (months) thinkking we were in a good place and then it would just hit me (sometimes after a pregnancy announcement, sometimes mother's day/father's day.. sometimes no reason at all) and it was just like those first days of being told it probably wouldn't happen. Now I am so scared of pushing people away again and so scared of that roller coaster ride and wondering what might set off the tears. A good friend of mine told me she spent so much time comforting others in the first days after their losses that she forgot to take care of herself and focus on her. I have come to realize that I need to do what I can for myself and my husband, I can't be the one to support my mom and sisters (who I know are trying to comfort us the best they know how) to make it through the day. It is not selfish, it is survival. It was pointed out to me that I need to feel how I feel, not how others want me to feel or what I think others want me to feel. Remember that "Those who mind don't matter; those who matter don't mind"- Dr. Suess. Thinking of you and sending you hugs.
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So many of us are feeling the same way. its been a year and a half since i lost my little one at 8.5 weeks. I havent been to a baby shower since. seeing pregnant women and babies kills me inside. A friend of mine has a baby boy (i felt in my heart my baby was a boy) who is only 2 months older than my baby should be. and i cant help but feel jealous towards others who got to keep their baby. i did everything i could to keep him...but it wasnt enough. you arent alone in feeling this way. its something alot of angel mothers struggle with for months, sometimes years. *HUGS*
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