Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Its been about 3 months since my miscarriage and its been a bumpy road. However, over the last few weeks i've felt like I was getting back to normal. But the other day my boyfreind was talking about his freinds new baby and how he couldnt wait for us to have children one day. I replied by saying that I didnt want to be pregnant ever agian. Its not that I dont want children, but lately I just dont think I can go through another pregnancy. It was hard enough losing one baby I couldnt take another failed pregnancy. I feel like the idea of pregnancy has been ruined for me, its no longer this excited experience in my mind, it just seems like nine months of holding my breath. I've even contemplated getting my tubes tide and other forms of perminant birth control to prevent myself from ever having another devastating miscarriage. I just dont know how to get passed the fear.
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O hun I know how you feel, I too felt like a failure after my miscarrige. Now 7 months after the miscarrige I'm 5 months pregnant w/ a girl and she's 100% healthy. So I say unto you PLEASE don't give up, its a way for you to pick yourself up and give another child a chance to have the most wonderful mother in the world and you are! Yea we might fall and skinn ower knees but we get up and heal the best way we can. Plus you'll always want to experiance the feel of a baby inside you again and to hold it would make you so proud of yourself. Theres no way i can asure you that your going to heal but children are a blessing! Don't rid that chance for your baby!
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I felt the same way and I refuse to let the fear control me. I discussed the "what if I can't have kids?" with my fiance and he was honest and said he wants to try but if I can't then he will still love me. I know when and if it happens again, I will be scared to death. But as you see we have all been down this road and we are here. I never wanted kids then I got pregnant. I was even supposed to be able to, but I did. Give yourself time and look toward a positive future and not live in the hardship.
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I'm feeling the same way you are. I am very fearful of having another miscarriage. I think the others have offered some great advice. I think fear is something we have tackle but it's not something that comes easily. I hope you can find the stregth within you to make the best decision possible for you and your partner
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The pain is disheartening for all of us. DON'T do something you may regret later. There's nothing with how you are feeling right now but someday you may change your mind. If you do you might kick yourself for jumping the gun. Keep your chin up. We are here to help.
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I agree with everyone else please dont give up. I was just like you for the longest time. But now almost 1 year after my miscarriage I am ready to try again. You will have other children, you owe it to your future children to try again. Please let me know if you need anything
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I'm going to be honest, the thought of having another miscarriage will be with you. But hey, when that baby goes to term and you finally meet them for the first time, it's impossible to describe the joy you will feel. Children are so wonderful. Don't give up that easily, don't waste the chance to feel how wonderful it is to be a Mum. No matter what the circumstances and problems you may or may not endure. Women are strong. That's why we got this job.
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