I am so very sorry for your loss. I, too, have wierd eating since my loss. I just don't feel hungry, so I don't eat. Even though I know I should, to take care of myself, but it's like I feel guilty when I eat, like I'm moving on and living when my baby died. It's like I want to waste away, because I feel so sad. I want to eat and be healthy so I can try again in a few months. I think eating and emotional pain, feeling empty...yeah. We gotta take this one day at a time, one meal at a time. I know my eating issue is opposite, but I hope it helps to know you're not alone. Thanks for sharing.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am a foster care worker so I know exactly how you feel. I went back to work a bit too soon. I kept it together professionally but it was very hard to do at times. Looking back i should have taken the time. (and boy of boy pregnancy was alllllllllllllll over the place) Take time out and take care of yourself! and I had days where I ate a lot too. I called them eat your feelings Mondays or whatever day of the week it may have been :) Sending you a hug and strength to get through this difficult time! Take care of yourself! :)

You're definitely not alone when it comes to the connection between pregnancy loss and food. Like achingheartmama, I stopped eating. And it wasn't just that I was too depressed to eat ... I actually felt guilty for eating. I was punishing myself for losing the pregnancy. It was my fault and I thought I needed to suffer. Finally, my husband noticed I wasn't eating.

I think food can offer comfort. It can provide you with a form of control you don't have over the pregnancy loss. We can use it as punishment. It's a complicated relationship when it becomes intertwined with our emotions.

Like SteffiNay says, "Take time out and take care of yourself!" Try to go easy on yourself. I think working out, even a simple walk, is a great idea only because exercise is great for body and our aching hearts. But remember you have to eat so don't swing in the other direction by avoiding food.

It was a good ramble. Ramble anytime. Rambling welcomed here! :)

Love to you and thinking of your baby boy.

I also found going back to work was really hard after the miscarriage and needed to give myself a break.

One of my jobs is promoting the social, artistic, and intellectual work of survivors of severe human inflicted trauma (rape, terror attacks, genocide, murder) who are trying to use their experience to improve society and the lives of others.

I am often wow'd by the creativity and hopefulness I see, but a lot of the research I do means wading through an awful lot of heavy, painful stuff.

After the miscarriage it was hard to be reminded of all the ways we trivialize and hurt each other. I also had to take a break.

Be gentle on yourself. This is a hard time.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am going through my second loss this year. After the first, I ate a LOT. I didn't know what to do with myself and I guess I was trying to fill a void or something.

This time around, I just don't want to eat. I have almost no appetite. Even if I do feel quite hungry, I just have no desire to do anything about it. I'm eating a little bit somewhat out of habit and somewhat because as soon as the bleeding is over we're ttc again.

I think both extremes are normal, but we need to really focus on being healthy no matter how we FEEL like eating, especially with wanting to start ttc again.

Please take care of yourself however you need. I agree with Juleshu. Sometimes a little bit of exercise can really be a good thing as far as clearing your mind. It's good for ttc as well.
*HUGS* You are not alone, girl. If you need to talk, I'm here.

Oh, gosh, that would be a hard job to go back to. I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a baby comes with a lot of anger and pain, and it's hard to understand people who take their kids for granted or see them as burdens rather than miracles. It makes me so angry to hear people complain about how kids have made their lives so much harder. A friend of mine told me once that having kids has made her life worse rather than better. Totally wanted to slap her.

I also had a hard time with comfort eating when I lost my last baby. I don't know why I did it. But I started gaining weight, I knew that I had to put a stop to it, so I had to make myself not eat. I'm still trying to lose some of that weight. I really need to start working out, too, but I just really dont have much energy at the end of the day.

Thank you so much ladies for your comfortimg words. It helps so much to kmow that I am not alone. I am also so sorry for your losses.

I totally understand the pain and hurt you are all going through...DH and I have been ttc for 3 years now...I have 3 almost adult children from my first marriage and DH has none....after 2 rounds of ivf and a tubal reversal we finally thought we had the miracle we were waiting for ....we heard and saw a heartbeat on Sept 3/10 and at our 3rd U/S on Sept 15/10 there was nothing...I wasnt given the option of having a D&C and had to use the medication (which was not pleasant) and to top it off DH is out of town for work (he didnt want to leave but had to)

I dont feel like eating either....and going back to work on Tuesday is not something I am looking forward to at all...I work in a group home with handicapped adults most of which are FAS/FAE....so I get to see how much some people really didnt care about their babies.....having had 3 normal pregnancies we thought that everything was great...what a shock....I think we are still in shock..and it doesnt make it any easier....I know that there is still a slim chance that we may get pregnant on our own...(I have 1 tube open) but age is also a factor....I am 40....I am so sorry for all of you losses.....

ive noticed my eating habits have changed somewhat..its like if i dont have junkfood, then i dont want to eat AT ALL... i know i need to lose weight but i also know i cant commit to taking that step with everything else going on. Ive been trying to do a little here and a little there that may help to lose weight. but...idk.. i wanted to lose weight b4 i TTC i just dont have the will power..you arent alone..i think it had alot to do with stress

I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our baby at the end of May and I remember talking to my husband about not letting me eat my emotions. That was easier said than done esp with me making all sorts of goodies, cakes, cookies, cupcakes. I'd search for new recipes so I'd have an excuse to make new things. In the process gained about 10 lbs. Last month a friend challenged a group of ladies to join her for a 5k on Thanksgiving morning. I was very hesitant to agree to join them. I haven't ever ran in one and only walked one once, but I agreeed. It has been 4 months since my D&C we plan on trying again in November but for now it's time for me to put the cup cakes down and reach for my running shoes. I've lost the weight I gained and know I would till be reaching for the sweets had I not been asked to participate. I tried many times to go back to the gym and 'focus on my health' but I found it much easier to make excuses to why I didn't have time. You will get there in time just remember you are not alone.