Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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smergs 08/04/2014

I had my D&C today.... It was a very emotional time. I was blesses with the security of my, husband with me, family/friends checking in, OB doing the surgery ( have been seeing home for 4+ years :), WONDERFUL nurses that shared their stories of MC with me. The procedure went well, not perforations, and they scoped and took pics of y uterus afterwards and said that everything looks healthy. This was good.

Now venting....
As I am waking up in recovery ( surrounded by two other women and two more added later..l all who have had the same procedure as me... Heard through the curtains) I hear a new born baby crying and I just start balling! That is not what I want to hear after I have just went through a procedure due to loosing my baby!!! The nurse ( yes, I know not her fault at all) says " I know that is hard to hear right now :( the C section recovery is across the way". WHAT THE FUCK!! Who thought that is a great idea to have women having surgery for ( sometimes not all the time) very painful losses to put them in a space they can hear that!

Ok rant over... Just needed to share :( was a very upsetting experience

S

kDeezy 08/05/2014

That's so awful. I'm so sorry you had to hear that :( Maybe you could write a letter to the hospital? That's so incredibly insensitive to put you there.

Sorry for your loss. I hope your heart starts to heal soon.

leciag 08/05/2014

I am so sorry for your loss...I know exactly how you feel. We lost our twins back in April. I MADE them move me somewhere else because I could not stand the sound of a child crying.

Hang in there...

smergs 08/06/2014

Thank you ladies for sharing and so sorry for your losses :( I was even more sad when the hospital,called to follow up and I told them my experience and they said that is their #1 complaint!! That when they renovate it will be separated... That is just. to acceptable to knowingly put woman though that :(

Hope your having a good day

Xo
S

megB22 08/07/2014

Its sound like you are having a positive outlook that is great! Keep hope alive. I am sorry about waking up to that at your surgery, that would be awful!

Good Luck to you your future and stay positive!

Meg

smergs 08/08/2014

Thanks meg!

I really am trying to stay positive.... I have been for a long time and really feel like it helps in allot of ways ...don't get me wrong.. I cam really sad and definitely have my moments but trying to keep a positive outlook.

:)
Xo
S

awidyanata 08/15/2014

I had the same experience like you. The hospital only provides 1 surgery room for D&C and the room is next to nursing room and the baby room. Across my room is room for new moms. So I can feel how you feel. I heard not only the crying, the babies and bunch of babies photos too. Horrible experience ever!!!

I really need positive spirit now to bring back my energy.

smergs 08/17/2014

I am so sorry you had to go through that too :(

I am a pretty positive person so I have been surrounding myself with people and activities that have made me happy in the past. Listening to music from different periods in my life :) I think now that the hormones are going down it has been easier to feel more like myself.

Sending you good vibes :)

Xo
S

awidyanata 08/18/2014

Thank you for the suggestion. Let me add to my healing activity. I try to write journal to let it out what's inside my chest every day. I guess it helps.

The first day of going back to work is the hardest part. I am a teacher, everybody gave me hugs. It made me feel being cared but at the same time it made me sad and cried. Every day I try to put my smiley face in front of the kids.

I need your positive spirit ;)

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