So sorry that you are feeling this way. I suffered a miscarriage 11 weeks ago at 12 weeks and still struggle to get out of bed some days. What you are feeling is perfectly normal. The most important thing is to give yourself time to heal, do things when you feel like it and in your own time. If you have friends and family for support then take all the support you can get, it really helps. There will always be good and bad days. You will get through it. Stay Strong.

I'm so sorry to hear that lina2008. I had mine a little over two months ago and felt pretty lousy the first week, too. Everyone is different -- I felt a little bit better the second week (but sudden moments of sadness) and then felt crummy again the third week. But then my husband and I went on vacation to Hawaii and being away from everything seemed to make everything much better. I've felt much better about it ever since. I don't cry about it now because I can't change the past -- I can only move ahead.

Like I said, everyone is different. Listen to your emotions and let yourself grieve. Hopefully your husband is supportive to you during this time...It has actually brought me and my husband closer together. Hopefully you will have similar support.

So sorry for what you're going through right now - so many of us are. Like Cath and 2 Cats say, there are really rotten days and then some better ones. Right now you're in that horrible phase of shock and also physical pain from your surgery. Your hormones are all over the place and will be for a few weeks and it all seems like more than you can bear. But I promise you, though we all grieve differently, you will come through this a little stronger bit by bit. It isn't a bit better every day - we all seem to swing back and forth, but overall we all move forward. For now focus on your physical self - get yourself as comfortable as you can, don't be afraid to use your pain relief and rest as much as you can. Talk to people who'll listen- we all certainly will. And just trust us when we say, you can do this. Each and everyone of us have been where you are and to differing degrees we're all pulling through - you will too. Take care of yourself and take your time.

I had my D&C today too. This is my second miscarriage...I understand completely what you're going through. If you ever want to talk, I'm here.

This time last year, I was pregnant - I had the miscarriage and D&C the first week of may. After all this time, I really want everyone to know that you shouldn't do what I did. I repressed everything. Every feeling of sadness, every time I wanted to ask God "why?" -- I held it all in and I made the decision to put it away in a box in the back of my mind, never to reopen it.

About six months ago, it hit me. And it hit me ten fold. Now, don't get me wrong - when I found out that I lost our baby, my world was gone from under my feet. The drop from extreme bliss to extreme hell was flattening. The day after my D&C I literally acted as though I was never even pregnant. I wouldn't talk about it, I wouldn't bring it up, and I for sure didn't deal with it. I thought that if I stowed it away that it would make it so it wasn't real.

You need to feel it. You need to cry, scream, write, vent, stay in bed, whatever it takes. Whatever you feel you need to do, do it. Don't let anyone ever make you feel like you have to get over it - because in time, you will slowly get your strength and courage back and heal. I'm sorry for your loss.

You will get through this.