Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I guess I'll begin with an intro..Hi, I'm Kaitlynn. My ttc journey is very similar to may others on this board, so I joined today in hopes of having an outlet. My support system is great, but I've never been the one to rely on other, I'm the one everyone comes to with issues. It's hard for me to be vulnerable.
My husband and I started trying last august. You can imagine the excitement we had when we got a positive hpt on St. Patty's day this year. We were over the moon. Unfortunately, in week 10, we found no heartbeat. I had a missed miscarriage at week 7, and eventually physically miscarried on May 13th, the day before Mother's Day.
Once cleared, we decided to try again. Filled with hope and anticipation, we were optimistic about the chances of quickly becoming pregnant. Because, as everyone says, "you are super fertile after a miscarriage". I guess that is a load of bs, at least for me.
So here I am, on CD1, again, just trying to contain myself from the brink of absolute insanity. I can't help but want to scream WTF!
I have a referral out to see a specialist, but it seems the doctors are in no rush to help me find the issues. I have hashimoto's thyroiditis, but it is under control, and constant monitoring. My metabolic panel came back in great shape, and my hormones during ovulation two cycles ago were on point. My husband's sperm count was optimal, and my ovarian scan was normal. So really, I'm back to, WTF!
Looking for light and encouragement. Similar experiences and struggles. I have my religion, please don't press yours. Thank you in advance for all your positivity!
I'm sad to see that this support group has become so inactive over the years.
It used to be a really tightly knit group of gosh I don't know maybe 30 women or more and we all talked here on a regular basis.
Although let me clarify if that means that many of the women have gone on to have babies, that is good news.
I haven't been on here for a couple of years. And for whatever reason I decided to log in today. I had to create a new password b/c it's been so long and I couldn't remember my old one.
I am no longer TTC. I'm 44. And we decided after three consecutive pregnancy losses to not move forward with our plans. (We do have one living child. She was born in 2006.)
I saw your post and I didn't want it to go ignored. I am hoping that maybe since you last posted you have gotten good news. And if not, know that there are plenty of stories with happy endings and yours can easily be one of them.
I understand the wanting to scream part.
I don't have any religion to push. No worries on that.
I just wanted to say hi and that I will keep you in my thoughts on this journey that you are on.
Everyone's story is different. And I know that with each passing week and month it gets hard to keep your chin up. Very hard. Each two-week wait can be so excruciating. And you can feel like you're living in a tunnel of madness.
But please do know that there is no shortage of stories with happy endings.
I could tell you stories with happy endings even when one was not expected. I have a cousin -- and he and his wife had one pregnancy, which resulted in a loss.
And they tried for many years to get pregnant and then just gave up.
About 10 years after the pregnancy loss, she spontaneously got pregnant. That pregnancy is now a preschool-aged girl.
Usually it does not take 10 years though. So take heart in that. But do know that just because there are disappointing months that that doesn't mean there is not light around the corner.
I too always heard the "super fertile after a miscarriage" line. I don't really know if it's true.
I got pregnant 4 months after a pregnancy loss only to lose that baby a couple weeks later. It then took 8 months to get pregnant again.
My particular story doesn't have a happy ending, BUT let me emphasize that is likely due to my age.
I don't know your age. DS is showing 13 for some reason, and I know that's not accurate.
But I wanted to be able to at least reach out and encourage you.
It sounds like both you and your husband have so much going for you in terms of your health. And it is frustrating to wait month after month to get pregnant.
I am incredibly sorry for your loss -- especially with the timing of it around Mother's Day.
I feel that we as very young women, we live our early adult lives feeling that it is so easy to get pregnant. And then when it comes time to WANT to be pregnant and we are actively trying it doesn't happen nearly as easy as we would hope.
Have you tried using an ovulation predictor kit so that you are crystal clear on your ovulation timing? I found that that helped me a lot. To know when the surge was and what the best days to try would be.
Your comment about how you are the one that most people turn to and that it's hard for you to be vulnerable -- resonated with me.
Sending you encouraging thoughts.
~K.