I send you a big hug. It is normal to have a hard time around pregnant women, babies and small children. You had a loss that you won't get over only learn how to deal with. I hope these people aren't being idiots and saying things that are hurtful. Just hold your head up high and try to be happy for these individuals.

It's so hard to have to deal with pregnant people after a m/c. It's been almost a year for me and I still have a hard time being around pregnant people. I am very happy for them, but it makes me feel very jealous. Just know we all feel that way, and we are here if you need to talk anytime.

Hey everyone,
thanks for your support. Most of the time I can handle being around people whom are pregant. It is just harder this time. Not sure why. But the two people whom are pregant are friends. One friend doesnt want it and either does the guy she is with. So they are gonna give it up for adoption. They have a family in mind whom may adopt the baby. The other person is 15 whom is pregant. She is gonna keep the baby. Her boyfriend works so he is trying to save money and help provide for her and there baby.
I will keep my head high as much as I can. smiles. Thanks for the help. HUGS.

I remember how devastated I felt a year after loosing Michael. I was alone (my fiance and I had just broken up), and on the one year date, I received a baby announcement in the mail. The following week, I got an invitation to a baby shower for another friend. It felt so unfair- like everyone in the whole world was having babies except for me. And of course hearing, "you're young, you still have time," was no help at all. I felt like such an outcast.

Even now that I'm pregnant, I STILL feel uncomfortable around pregnant women. Especially new parents that everything is going prefect for, I feel like they don't deserve it. It's a pain that definitely has faded over time, but I don't think ever really goes away.

I heard a quote one time that said, "You never really get over people, you just learn how to live without them." I think that is so true for me. I will NEVER forget my son, nor would I ever want to. He will always be a part of my life. I survive without him on a day-to-day basis and miss him every second of it. I guess the best advice I can give is telling you what things have helped me survive. Talking about my son is one of the ways I feel most empowered. I feel like I am honoring his memory by sharing memories of him and passing on his name to others. Sharing what I went through to help others not feel so alone in their pain is something I do that makes me feel like I am honoring my son and it helps me get through the day. Right away I figured out who around me and what tools were available to give me the best support. For me, I have a few friends who have gone through similar things, my family is very supportive, and this website has been a miracle. Whenever I feel down, I like to talk to someone or write it down and let it out.

Hang in there and know that you are not alone. Try to be happy for your friends who are having kids- but give yourself the space and time you need to heal. *huge hugs*

Thanks for much for the advice. It does help to know I am not alone. I dont really talk about it because not many people know. My mom does not know. I have about 5 friends or so who know. Kristi thanks and to everyone for helping me. One of my friends have miscarried before. She and I talked about it twice. Then the day I told her I miscarried she told me she was pregant. It does get a little easier seeing pregant women but then I feel that should be me and not them. I know one day I will get pregant. I tried to talk about it with my counselor and he doesnt really want to talk about the past. He keeps saying how I am stronge and powerful. Sometimes if we talk about the past we get stuck in the past. So I havent talked to him about some things I need to talk to him about. I decided to look for a new counselor. Thanks you all for you advice. It doesnt help to know I am not alone. HUGS to you all.

I can relate to everything you just said. You've come to the right place. These women are amazing and so supportive. We all know what your going through. We're all here to listen. Vent anytime =)

Thanks for you guys support. I am so down right now and it just sucks. My depression hit so I am trying to stay positive. Then I have been thinking about the miscarriage a lot. My finace' is talking about when we can have kids. I know right now we are not finacally ready for a baby. Then I think about one of my close friends. She has 3 kids. After she had her first baby she miscarried. So when I miscarried I called her to talk to her since she understood. We were on the phone and I told her I had miscarried and she told me she was pregant. (she was pregant with her 2nd baby). Now I look at her 2nd child and see what could have been my baby. It kills me and I get jealous sometimes..i hate saying it but because he lived and my baby didnt. I know it is stupid because it is no ones fault. It is just the way it happened.
Sometimes I think about my ex (the father of the baby) and think about how he handled it. It really hurt. He came over that night I miscarried. (my friend called him and bitched him out because he was not gonna come over but he did because of my friend calling him). He hugged me and we just sat on the couch and talked about the baby and he rubbed my stomic. He was talking about what it would be like if I had not miscarried. Then he left that night. He and I talked about a month later. We have not spoken since. (sigh) I am so sorry to ramble. (crying) I need to go. Thanks again.

I remember after I lost my son, I hadn't even received his ashes yet and my friend sent me a picture of her sonogram announcing she was having a boy. I thought not only was she rude and insensitive, but a real bitch (excuse my language) because even after losing my son, all she would do is say to me "I don't want what happened to you happen to me.) I heard it through the rest of her pregnancy. I'm really sorry. The only thing that got me through it is LOTS of distance.

Hey Sarasson,
that sucks that your friend did that. What a bitch. Im so sorry about that. My friend never mentioned my miscarrage again. Part of me was happy we didnt talk about it. I didnt talk about it. I even saw a counselor and she didnt help. I have not really found a counselor that is good though. thanks for the help and advice.

So now everyone and thing around me is baby stuff. Then I hang out with some people and what movie do we watch but "Knocked up". i love the movies but it makes me feel so much right now. I miss my baby but I am doing a little better. Trying to let go of that past and move forward with life. ughh so hard. what to do, what to do.