Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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Turtlepower 07/22/2014

Please help! I miscarried 6 months ago, at the end of January. I'm in grad school at the moment, and I went through the entire semester in kind of a daze of grief and stress. Then, around finals time I crashed and I felt like I just didn't care about school or anything anymore. I had expected to be pregnant again by that time, but of course I wasn't and I'm still not. I have been giving myself time to just heal and try to think about positive things. But I also feel like I'm stuck in limbo. I still just don't care about anything, and I don't know whether I'm returning to school in the fall or not. I was hoping for another baby, but I can't even believe that it's possible. This was my first pregnancy. I don't feel as shocked and drained as I did those first few months, but now I just feel empty. When I'm by myself I don't think about it constantly anymore, but it's hard to go out anywhere because I get agitated and angry when I see babies and pregnant people. I really don't want to isolate myself, but I don't know how to deal with it. I guess it would be better if I had some big responsibility, like another child, to draw me back into life. I just feel like what's the point? I do want another child, but I worry that not even that will make me happy again.
....I don't have an answer, I'm just getting it off my chest.

katemo 07/22/2014

I had my miscarriage 4 months ago and feel very similar to what you are describing. I feel the worst right now than I did in the beginning. I had a lot of distractions in the beginning with matron of honor obligations, tasks at work, etc. I too thought I would be pregnant right now and it is incredibly difficult seeing so many close friends, some family and many acquaintances on Facebook that have newborns or are pregnant.
I never thought I would be so sensitive to others that are pregnant but it is extremely difficult. My best friend just recently told me she is pregnant. I have NO IDEA how I am supposed to deal with that?

I just got my period and it has made me be crabby all day on our family vacation.
I feel so down in the dumps and it is very hard to thinking positively when you feel so horrible.

I hope you start to feel better.

megB22 07/30/2014

After my third miscarriage in one year... I also found myself six months later not pregnant. I was also expecting to be pregnant again, especially after being pregnant three times in a year. I am also in grad school. Although frustrated and sad I am not pregnant, I try to focus on the positives of not having a baby right now. Like my freedom and finishing school without having to take care of a baby. Do not get me wrong I wish my pregnancies were successful, but I have found that dwelling on what could have been....only makes it worse. Finding the positives even though small has helped me. I am sorry for your loss, Try and stay positive and hopeful for the future. (as hard as it sometimes is)

stepbystep123 07/31/2014

hi, I just want to say sorry to you both for what you are going through. My miscarriage was also in January and my due date is looming in August. Since then I have found out that 9 friends have become pregnant including a friend I see all the time. It's been hard watching her and other pregnancies progress. I wish you all the best for the future xx

Turtlepower 07/31/2014

Hi everyone, thanks for your comments and I'm sorry for your losses! I cannot imagine having three miscarriages in a year. Once in a lifetime is bad enough!

I lost my baby so early I never got a due date, but I would have been giving birth in September. At first I felt terribly sad, but also excited to know I could get pregnant and hopeful about getting pregnant again. Then I was told by one of the doctors that I had to wait at least 3 months because "you don't want to miscarry again, do you?" I feel that being told I had to wait shattered my confidence. And still not being pregnant yet erodes my confidence even more. I just hate the waiting and the uncertainty, especially when I should have had a child coming very soon! And now I'm back at the beginning with nothing to show for it but a broken heart.

I'm sorry for all of you who have actual due dates, and I know it will be hard(er) on that day.

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