Miscarriage Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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lina2008 07/18/2010

I did a HPT today BFN... I know its only DPO 10 (5 days after frozen embrio transfer) but I know the results are accurate. With my angel I tested positive at 11DPO, a perfect little pink line.

so all hope is gone, I know that it is over, I can't continue to try. We can't conceive naturally and IVF is too painful and expensive to continue...

I feel like God has been so cruel, giving me the child that I so desired only to take her away from me in the next breath and now leaving me childless.

I don't know how to feel any more....

deleted_user 07/19/2010

My heart goes out to you. I've always heard God has his reasons why bad things happen to us. We might not know why at the moment but we learn later in life.
Be good to yourself and share love with your husband, you need each other right now.

deleted_user 07/19/2010

I wish I could alleviate your pain and grief. I'm so sorry for this devastating news.

Let people take care of you right now. Lean on your support system.

deleted_user 07/19/2010

I am sorry to hear about the pain that you are in. I will be thinking about you and praying for some peace for you.

deleted_user 07/19/2010

After we lost our baby my friend gave me a book called, "I'll Hold You in Heaven: Healings and Hope for the Parent of a Miscarried, Aborted, or Stillborn Child," by Jack Hayford. It helped me to see that God did not take our baby away. He is always good, but we live in a world that is broken. I know that the spirit of a person, no matter how old they are, does not just disappear. You will see your baby in heaven someday. I hope that this is a comforting thought to you, because it helped me.

deleted_user 07/20/2010

I am so sorry you are having to experience this pain and grief. I am not a very religious person but I do believe that God does not do things to hurt you. I know you may not feel that way with everything going on, but trust in God that there IS a reason. Its been 3 weeks today since i lost my little angel and for the first week I stayed in bed and thought of everything under the sun of why this happened to me. WHY GOD WOULD DO THIS TO ME, when i wanted my baby so bad, when I tried month after month and FINALLY i get blessed only to later on experience the most deep pain and grief i have ever experienced. when lab reports came in I found out that there was something wrong with my baby, my baby would have had birth defects. It became perfectly clear to me why this happened, God knew I couldnt handle it, financially yes, mentally/emotionally-no...It would hurt so bad to see my precious angel suffer or struggle for their life. He knew what was best and although I did not feel that way at first, with time I have realized this didnt happen because God wanted to hurt me at all. Its painful that I will have to wait (6 months) to TTC again...and probably longer to concieve, but I have to trust that when he does bless me again, my baby will be perfect and healthy...and my angel baby will be in heaven never feeling pain.

deleted_user 07/20/2010

soo true!

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